What are really the requirements for dating younger women in your forties?

[BaronOfHair]

@Papa Joe's BBQ "This isn’t a theory about dating – it’s an autobiography masquerading as a law of nature"

In the WEEK since you began this thread(We're talking almost 7 days ago, hoss), have you

-Spent at least an hour outside EVERY day, not simply approaching women you find desirable but being sociable in general? Yes, EVERY day, even those occasions where you could've easily stayed indoors in your sweats

-If so, when women provided you with their "deets" and folks in general were receptive to your socializing, did you take note of what you said and how you behaved in these scenarios?.

-If not, what prevented you from doing so? Were you immobilized via illness, mistaken for an illegal and jailed in an ICE detention center until this morning, or did you simply choose to not get up and around at decent time in the morning and pursue your goals? Not even being facetious here, OP.... If you haven't "put in the work" since last Thursday, I'm eager to read your rationale for doing so

-If you've been making the effort each and every day, and gals aren't providing you with their deets, and people in general aren't receptive to you, have you taken note of what you said and how you behaved in these scenarios?

-When I say "take note", I mean literally writing this stuff out, so that you can review your "performance" after the fact

If you haven't been doing any of the above, you're ultimately just spitballing/theorizing, which is exactly what most fellas these days trade in. Chances of you getting what you say you want, without actually taking action out in reality, are more dismal than chances of Hezbollah becoming something other than a f-c-ing crime cartel masquerading as freedom fighters , anytime within the next decade


Side-note: THIS explains why so many of us sputter out after our 20s... We allow our appetites to be quelled, lose all motivation subsequently

 

[Glassguy]

Im late to the party but since I feel over qualified in this subject, I'll chime in.
At 45 I had a year long relationship with a 28 yr old chick. Prior to her I was dating a 32 year old chick. Actually, the previous 4 relationships Ive been in have all been at least 10 yrs younger than me. Hooked up with numerous chicks in their early to mid 20s while I was 42-47.
Im nearing 49 yrs old and getting married in July. My fiance is 41, very fit physical therapist. So another age gap there as well.
I never felt any of them were hard to get. Quite easy actually.
I feel there are a few factors that I find indefinitely help:
1. Looks- I 100% dont agree that you have to look like a model. You do have to be in decent shape. And it helps if you look younger than you are
2. How you act around younger women- you can act mature as most younger women find that attractive. But you also need to be very outgoing, charismatic and fun. More than anything, you have to be interesting or younger women will not find you attractive.
3. Get a boat
Hope this helps.

Happy Hunting
GG

 

[pipeman84]

Im nearing 49 yrs old and getting married in July. My fiance is 41, very fit physical therapist. So another age gap there as well.

That's an inverse age gap ... you're way younger than she is.

 

[RangerMIke]

First the woman has to be okay with dating an older guy. Without this, nothing happens.

If you are not physically fit, and financially stable... you really don't have a chance.

Second, act your age don't try to be something you are not.

Third, never give her advice about anything,... well this is true for all women, but it is more tempting with a younger person doing something stupid. Unless she actually asks you for advice. Even if she is about to drive off a cliff, you just have to let her do it.

 

[Papa Joe's BBQ]

First the woman has to be okay with dating an older guy. Without this, nothing happens.

If you are not physically fit, and financially stable... you really don't have a chance.

Second, act your age don't try to be something you are not.

Third, never give her advice about anything,... well this is true for all women, but it is more tempting with a younger person doing something stupid. Unless she actually asks you for advice. Even if she is about to drive off a cliff, you just have to let her do it.

Translation:
Read her mind, if she rejects you don't be angry, it's because of your age. Always. No exception. Only when being fit and wealthy, you are allowed to look at younger women. There is zero exceptions on this planet. So better get your testosterone injections and liposuction ready, because without it, you are worthless scum. And you know that based on hearsay and what you read in pickup blogs.
Also, don't ever learn anything, because that's just fake if you practice. Shut up and never be happy, never cry, ever.
And never use your knowledge. In general, never use any means that you have and maybe on a full moon she'll have mercy with you, you pathetic leftover meatbag.

And yes, I understand exactly what you are saying and no, it's not reality and yes, I am the ungrateful forum user who doesn't take "great" advice and therefore cannot be helped.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@Papa Joe's BBQ "And yes, I understand exactly what you are saying and no, it's not reality and yes, I am the ungrateful forum user who doesn't take "great" advice and therefore cannot be helped"

Your personality and the life philosophy behind it is likely demolishing your attractiveness, not just with women you desire, but EVERYONE. Faster than the average meth tweaker sees their dental health go down the sh-t-er, within a few months of using

 

[Papa Joe's BBQ]

Ad hominem, really?

 

[BaronOfHair]

Ad hominem, really?

Wasn't ad hominem or even out right namecalling, hombre. Imagine something for a moment:

You're in conversation with someone... They claim to desire your counsel, but then proceed to shoot down everything you say(NO ONE on this thread has told you "Go get liposuction and shoot yourself up with testosterone", for example*), rather than actually listening deeply to/processing it. Would YOU find such a person even pleasant company, much less sexually alluring?

Because THAT(Saying "I want/need back up", then shooting down everyone who provides you with highly specific instructions on what you must do, in order to achieve your professed goal**)is exactly what you've spent this entire f-c-ing thread doing. And, based upon your non-response to my prior reply to you https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...en-in-your-forties.285871/page-3#post-3187530 , I can only infer that you HAVEN'T taken much action out in the wild over the last week


*Even if someone on this thread had encouraged you to do so, and you were serious about addressing your issues, you'dve simply replied: "Thanks, I'll take that under advisement". Then perhaps gone out and gotten your T Levels checked + Scrounged up the cash for liposuction, if that's what's needed, in order to rid yourself of 'dem love handles

**We can have an entirely seperate convo around the question: "Do you really WANT to succeed at snagging the women you find desirable, or are you among the crowd who's desperate from someone who'll just "validate your lived experience" I.E. Someone who'll re-enforce every last one of your current beliefs, rather than disputing and(in some cases)obliterating them?"

If the latter... Well, no one's going to able to provide you with the proficiencies required for you to help yourself, at this moment anyway. Tools are only helpful to folks who actually use them, rather than manufacturing justifications, once they've been given said tools

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I like my popcorn salty.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP, @RangerMIke was exaggerating a little but you want to look good, have your sh1t together, and be yourself.

Reacting the way you did suggests you could stand to work on your emotional control, which also helps.

 

[Plinco]

Translation:
Read her mind, if she rejects you don't be angry, it's because of your age. Always. No exception. Only when being fit and wealthy, you are allowed to look at younger women. There is zero exceptions on this planet. So better get your testosterone injections and liposuction ready, because without it, you are worthless scum. And you know that based on hearsay and what you read in pickup blogs.
Also, don't ever learn anything, because that's just fake if you practice. Shut up and never be happy, never cry, ever.
And never use your knowledge. In general, never use any means that you have and maybe on a full moon she'll have mercy with you, you pathetic leftover meatbag.

And yes, I understand exactly what you are saying and no, it's not reality and yes, I am the ungrateful forum user who doesn't take "great" advice and therefore cannot be helped.

You're being hyperbolic. Another way to say what he said was to be the best version of yourself.

 

[HaleyBaron]

What are really the requirements for dating younger women in your forties?

Same requirements for dating women in general. Don't look like a snob, have something going for you, and be someone interesting. Don't have to be a jester. Just someone she can brag about in some way.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Why don’t you take two years of your bank statements and run them through Ai? Start with Claude and have ChatGPT cross check it and then feed that back into Claude. Have a real idea where you are in your life and how to become financially stable. I assure you, you’ll feel a hell of a lot better. You will have a plan, it’ll build you a budget and a path forward. Then, you can figure out where you’re going to spend your money. If you were on the fence about fringe spend that’ll allow you to meet who you want to meet or spend what you want in order to bring those people into your life, you’ll have your answer and you’ll be on the path to building your money. There’s literally never been a better opportunity to get your life straight in any regard than leveraging AI.

 

[Papa Joe's BBQ]

You will love this.