Hello Friend,

If this is your first visit to SoSuave, I would advise you to START HERE.

It will be the most efficient use of your time.

And you will learn everything you need to know to become a huge success with women.

Thank you for visiting and have a great day!

What am I doing wrong here?

TheFinalLine

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 24, 2020
Messages
1,202
Reaction score
1,084
Age
57
Interesting. Perhaps you could have brought up sex as a stress reliever at such a trying time. Women have time for sex.
 

oldmanofthesea

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 23, 2018
Messages
1,258
Reaction score
2,293
Age
45
I don't know why they do such funny ****t. Why send a voicenote after a month if you're aren't going to reply
It's very simple. The number one desire of a woman is validation. For most women that comes in the form of attention. To 99% of women, it is more important than sex, or anything else. Women string men along because knowing that a man is interested in them provides all the validation they need. They keep entire pools of men for this purpose.

Usually what a guy sees is that things seem to be going just "ok" with a girl and then she stands him up or flakes, then goes dark, then starts pinging him a week or a month later. What just happened behind the curtain was, she met a guy who really blew her socks off (and likely was above her league because that's what women constantly reach for), so she flaked on you in order to go out with that guy. That guy pumped and dumped her after a short while and then she felt extra needy for validation since he just took it away from her by dumping her a$$, so she reaches out to you and 15 other guys she feels she has in her orbit to get that hit of validation, even if she has no desire to go out with you. Just replying is all she needs to know she is "wanted" and then she ghosts again. If you DO manage to get her out on a date, it's usually only because she is REALLY down and out depressed due to being dumped by someone she really liked and maybe being rejected by another high-value guy she was trying to get with, and she needs the next level of validation which is being taken out on a date. But nothing will happen with you and her because she is just looking for that validation and some companionship to ease her loneliness and insecurity. This is why we preach so hard to avoid low interest women and focus on high interest women. You want a woman you know is into you, not one who is using you and biding her time for the guy she REALLY wants to bang.
 

derby1

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 10, 2017
Messages
2,207
Reaction score
2,102
Age
39
True! She can reach out if she wants to
you also cease all social media "likes" she will start liking all your stuff to see if you reach out, all thirsty.

theyre predictable brother,.
 

Clamslammer

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 6, 2018
Messages
206
Reaction score
257
Age
38
you also cease all social media "likes" she will start liking all your stuff to see if you reach out, all thirsty.

theyre predictable brother,.
Haha, you guys actually go on these girls social accounts and like their posts? That is mind blowing.
 

derby1

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 10, 2017
Messages
2,207
Reaction score
2,102
Age
39
Haha, you guys actually go on these girls social accounts and like their posts? That is mind blowing.
I have many women on social media, local women I know very well. I game all my women through social media its easy.

my point is when they go wishy washy i respond too nothing, not even if they shared my business page
 

image

"If you love women, you must read the SoSuave Guide to Women. It's fantastic!"

Dam44

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 6, 2020
Messages
339
Reaction score
101
UPDATE

So somehow we got texting, and there was fun and vibes in the air. She told me a rare name of hers and I told her my crush in high school had the same name. Then I added a cheeky comment, "maybe we'll date". She's says "maybe, it's on you". She proceeded to ask how many girlfriends I've had, I said I've been close with many but nothing serious really(didn't want to lie)

Then she said, so that's none to which I admit. The interaction ended at it's on you.

I think this is good, how do I take it from here
 

CAPSLOCK BANDIT

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 29, 2020
Messages
1,299
Reaction score
963
Timing was a issue but it wasn't really my fault.
No, it wasn't my food. It was at a restaurant, I asked her what she wanted
Oh, now this is cute, haven't saw fault talk in a while... Just being honest bro, everything is your fault... The sooner you accept everything is your fault, the sooner you can have the most important factors fall under your control.

Everything is your fault and that is OK. Peachy. Fantastic, I accept fault and now I'm moving on, not dwelling and my life is going to be better because of it.
 

CAPSLOCK BANDIT

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 29, 2020
Messages
1,299
Reaction score
963
UPDATE

So somehow we got texting, and there was fun and vibes in the air. She told me a rare name of hers and I told her my crush in high school had the same name. Then I added a cheeky comment, "maybe we'll date". She's says "maybe, it's on you". She proceeded to ask how many girlfriends I've had, I said I've been close with many but nothing serious really(didn't want to lie)

Then she said, so that's none to which I admit. The interaction ended at it's on you.

I think this is good, how do I take it from here
Spinning plates is about giving her room to let her own over active imagination start creating value for you, so you accomplish this by leaving her on read and going to meet other women.
 

Poonstra

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 27, 2018
Messages
191
Reaction score
119
Age
42
So somehow we got texting, and there was fun and vibes in the air.
Owww, ffs man. Let me take a wild guess, she reached out first. And you happily took the bait so now you're back in orbit.

She told me a rare name of hers and I told her my crush in high school had the same name.
You think you bonded over a name?

Then I added a cheeky comment, "maybe we'll date"
I'll classify that as insecure rather than cheeky.

She's says "maybe, it's on you".
And she dodged it.........

She proceeded to ask how many girlfriends I've had, I said I've been close with many but nothing serious really(didn't want to lie)
Next time lie though your g*ddamm teeth. See below.

Then she said, so that's none to which I admit.
And she deducted you have no experience with women. A question like that has only one right answer "none of your business" or a variation of that like "I don't kiss and tell".

I think this is good
I'm gonna have to disappoint you there buddy.

how do I take it from here
Yeah.....so.....if, and I'm stretching this, if she really likes you for whatever reason, which I doubt, cause she would not have stood you up on that date if she did, she'll agree on a date. Just blatantly ask, no chit chat. I'm gonna do this activity coming Friday, want to come along?

I'm gonna have to be honest and tell you that your chances are slim to none.

You know what to do when she declines. Right? Or tries to postpone or reschedule. Right? As I'm smelling your infatuation for her all the way across the internet I'm gonna spell it out for you. You go no contact. No social media, no texting, to talking on the phone.

YOU GO AND FIND YOURSELF ANOTHER WOMAN.
 
Last edited:
Top