Vantagepoint34
Master Don Juan
:woo: Let's say you had a shot with your favorite celeb who would it be?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Really? You'd date a woman twice your age?San Jose California said:jennifer aniston
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
There is a dynamic in human psychology of adjusting preferences to acquisition ability, i.e. sour grapes. It's odd you'd pick the saber toothed Jennifer Aniston (old enough to be your mother) out of the pack of much more beautiful, youthfully relevant actresses like Keira Knightley or Evan Rachel Wood. Are you actually attracted to older women, or are older women the only women you can get? Just asking.San Jose California said:Who cares? I'm dating jennifer aniston.
Diane Lane? (who is gorgeous)backbreaker said:there is a woman that when I made my transformation so to speak and really started to grow up, the first time I saw her, I knew that was the model T so speak of the type of woman I want. The entire package (to me at least). Loves horse racing, very pretty, very classy, just as sweet as can be... i'm not going to say who it is, but she's in her early 40's (and still quite attractive)...
and if i were single, you could line up all of the 20 year olds in the world with her and i would chose her and have the biggest **** eating grin on my face on earth. none of those 20 year olds, brings the entire package that she would to the table. we aren't talking about sport ****ing.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
iwanttofight said:You just picked jennifer Anniston because your gay for Brad Pitt, and that's the closest you will get to him by sloppy seconds with Jennifer Anniston
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.