Vantagepoint34
Master Don Juan
:woo: Let's say you had a shot with your favorite celeb who would it be?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Really? You'd date a woman twice your age?San Jose California said:jennifer aniston
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
There is a dynamic in human psychology of adjusting preferences to acquisition ability, i.e. sour grapes. It's odd you'd pick the saber toothed Jennifer Aniston (old enough to be your mother) out of the pack of much more beautiful, youthfully relevant actresses like Keira Knightley or Evan Rachel Wood. Are you actually attracted to older women, or are older women the only women you can get? Just asking.San Jose California said:Who cares? I'm dating jennifer aniston.
Diane Lane? (who is gorgeous)backbreaker said:there is a woman that when I made my transformation so to speak and really started to grow up, the first time I saw her, I knew that was the model T so speak of the type of woman I want. The entire package (to me at least). Loves horse racing, very pretty, very classy, just as sweet as can be... i'm not going to say who it is, but she's in her early 40's (and still quite attractive)...
and if i were single, you could line up all of the 20 year olds in the world with her and i would chose her and have the biggest **** eating grin on my face on earth. none of those 20 year olds, brings the entire package that she would to the table. we aren't talking about sport ****ing.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
iwanttofight said:You just picked jennifer Anniston because your gay for Brad Pitt, and that's the closest you will get to him by sloppy seconds with Jennifer Anniston
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.