What’s your hang out rate ?

[Hollywood4life]

not your lay rate, I’m just wondering how often you actually get t with the girl?

I’m new and going off what one of the guys I look up to (Tom Terro )says Is very daunting ...I follow/look up to another guy (A.G Hayden) on YouTube and he said he hangs/1st base with about half the woman he approaches,Dosent necessarily have sex with them though

For every 10 girls I approach how many should I being at getting the number and hanging with if I’m newer and on the right track?

-my rate is so low as of now,just looking for some inspiration and a kick in the butt

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Don’t worry about that at first. Be outcome indifferent. Comparing yourself to others who have been doing it a lot longer than you will only frustrate you. If you are new to cold approaching, you’re doing it to learn how to be around women without being nervous and learning to have real, meaningful conversations with strangers - conversations which you lead. That is the goal at first.

There will be times when you number close every girl you approach and still other times when you strike out 10 in a row. Just how it works.

Also, try to put yourself in situations where you can warm approach. Like join some co-Ed sports teams (running, ultimate frisbee, Meetup.com, etc). Volunteer at various non profits or things you believe in, and meet people there too.

 

[Hollywood4life]

Don’t worry about that at first. Be outcome indifferent. Comparing yourself to others who have been doing it a lot longer than you will only frustrate you. If you are new to cold approaching, you’re doing it to learn how to be around women without being nervous and learning to have real, meaningful conversations with strangers - conversations which you lead. That is the goal at first.

There will be times when you number close every girl you approach and still other times when you strike out 10 in a row. Just how it works.

Also, try to put yourself in situations where you can warm approach. Like join some co-Ed sports teams (running, ultimate frisbee, Meetup.com, etc). Volunteer at various non profits or things you believe in, and meet people there too.

so there will be weeks where it’s nothing but rejections for you for the most part? This is common for newbies?

I guess I expected to have got a couple over by now(3 months in). I’ve had 4/5 where I thought for sure I had them and we were gonna hangout...(didnt Happen)

The rejection each time feels like a breakup for me..idk I’m probably looking to much into it,rejection is a big part of the game I just need to get used to it

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Impossible to know. A lot depends on your skill level.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

It could take months..... really just depends on where you are starting from. The more socially calibrated you are to begin with, the sooner it will happen for you. But don’t let that make you feel frustrated...... even if you are starting out with very poor social calibration, there is only ONE cure for it, and that is action. And you are taking that action. Your other alternatives are to give up, or to become a “victim.”

You are on a path.... a journey. You can’t control every part of a journey. All you can do is point the ship in the direction you believe is right and know that you will arrive in time, and will learn and experience much along the way. Focus on that journey and take time to recognize you are one of very few who chose the path of bettering yourself instead of complaining and negativity. Think of how these experiences are breaking down your own inner barriers and fears and demons and imagine how it will impact your life, not just your romantic life.

If you truly believe you aren’t going in the right direction, ask specific questions here. What do you think might be happening? What could be going wrong with these interactions? How many approaches have you done so far? What are you saying? Where? How are the conversations going? It will help to provide specific advice.