"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Went to a bar for the first time in Tallahassee...

PumpNightmare

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Since I stopped masturbation, I tried going to a bar today in Tallahassee, Bullwinkles. Had no one with me, just went in alone. Was pretty scared at first. Then got a beer and relaxed. I wanted to approach, but I could not seem to bring myself at first. Later on, around 11pm, the place finaly started having a better male/female ratio. Although I still couldn't approach. Then I got some bacardi and walked through the dance floor. Here and there I would try to get eye contanct and then dance/grind with the girls, but not much success. I was sitting down afterwords and this HB9 just came up to me, looked me in the eyes, and started dancing. I got up and followed along, then less then two minutes later she looked at me and walked off. Was a strange experience. I didn't talk to any girls, was too loud to hear my own voice, but I did stay till close at 2am. Since I didn't get a conversation with anyone, I walked four miles back home. Was going to take a cab, but I had so much energy I just walked it off. Took me about 45 minutes.

Perhaps someone can suggest what I'm doing wrong? I'm not a partier and there was no one I knew there, but I was able to manage to stay the whole night. First time I've ever been here. No matter how much reading I do here, doing it out in the "field" is difficult. Perhaps I might try a club next week instead of a bar.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SamePendo

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sounds like you had fun - i'd like to do this. what kind of a bar was it? sounds like a club. next time follow that girl and approach.
 

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Thanks for the support. I might try to invite another AFC friend of mine next time. He's 21 and never even drinked yet...like to have at least one person there that I know.
And here is info about Bullwinkles. http://www.bullwinklessaloon.net/new_page_7.htm Its always advertised as a bar, but it seems more like a club once your in there. Not sure if I'll go here next week since there is a $10 cover, but you do get to drink all the beer and bacardi you want between 9pm~1am, but might try some other places on the strip or around.
 
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