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Went to a bar for the first time in Tallahassee...

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Since I stopped masturbation, I tried going to a bar today in Tallahassee, Bullwinkles. Had no one with me, just went in alone. Was pretty scared at first. Then got a beer and relaxed. I wanted to approach, but I could not seem to bring myself at first. Later on, around 11pm, the place finaly started having a better male/female ratio. Although I still couldn't approach. Then I got some bacardi and walked through the dance floor. Here and there I would try to get eye contanct and then dance/grind with the girls, but not much success. I was sitting down afterwords and this HB9 just came up to me, looked me in the eyes, and started dancing. I got up and followed along, then less then two minutes later she looked at me and walked off. Was a strange experience. I didn't talk to any girls, was too loud to hear my own voice, but I did stay till close at 2am. Since I didn't get a conversation with anyone, I walked four miles back home. Was going to take a cab, but I had so much energy I just walked it off. Took me about 45 minutes.

Perhaps someone can suggest what I'm doing wrong? I'm not a partier and there was no one I knew there, but I was able to manage to stay the whole night. First time I've ever been here. No matter how much reading I do here, doing it out in the "field" is difficult. Perhaps I might try a club next week instead of a bar.
 

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sounds like you had fun - i'd like to do this. what kind of a bar was it? sounds like a club. next time follow that girl and approach.
 

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Thanks for the support. I might try to invite another AFC friend of mine next time. He's 21 and never even drinked yet...like to have at least one person there that I know.
And here is info about Bullwinkles. http://www.bullwinklessaloon.net/new_page_7.htm Its always advertised as a bar, but it seems more like a club once your in there. Not sure if I'll go here next week since there is a $10 cover, but you do get to drink all the beer and bacardi you want between 9pm~1am, but might try some other places on the strip or around.
 
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