"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Well...that was weird..

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So chick calls me up a few mins ago. She's one of the lifeguard chicks I've been talking to recently.

Her: Hey Kirro. Its [insert her name here]
Me: Hey, wassup?
Her: Do we ever hangout outside the pool?
Me: Huh? No.
Her: Do we talk to each other on the phone?
Me: No.
Her: Do we text?
Me: *chuckling* no.
Her: Okay, just wanted to know.
Me: Why?
Her: Just wanted to know.
Me: Okay.
Her: Later
me: Uh huh.

So what was the purpose of this call? I have some ideas but I want to hear what the SS detectives think.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Kirro said:
So chick calls me up a few mins ago. She's one of the lifeguard chicks I've been talking to recently.

Her: Hey Kirro. Its [insert her name here]
Me: Hey, wassup?
Her: Do we ever hangout outside the pool?
Me: Huh? No.
Her: Do we talk to each other on the phone?
Me: No.
Her: Do we text?
Me: *chuckling* no.
Her: Okay, just wanted to know.
Me: Why?
Her: Just wanted to know.
Me: Okay.
Her: Later
me: Uh huh.

So what was the purpose of this call? I have some ideas but I want to hear what the SS detectives think.
You say you have been talking to her recently but how in depth? Seems she might have forgotten about who you were exactly. Maybe she wanted to know why she had your number in her phone? You might not have made a memorable impression on her mind.
 

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She's one of the lifeguard chicks I've been talking to recently.
umm... No you don't.

Seems like you blew this opportunity already. If you get a number... Use it.
 

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lol that was one weird call. She probably had a hidden motive I mean why would she call you to interrogate you to kinda justify why she should have/not have your phone number? She would always just delete it from her contacts or not at all. It's not like she needs your permission to delete it.

My feeling (just my personal feeling) was just her way of c*ckblocking you. Her way of letting you know she is not really interested in you either as a lover or a friend outside of work.
 

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f283000 said:
lol that was one weird call. She probably had a hidden motive I mean why would she call you to interrogate you to kinda justify why she should have/not have your phone number? She would always just delete it from her contacts or not at all. It's not like she needs your permission to delete it.

My feeling (just my personal feeling) was just her way of c*ckblocking you. Her way of letting you know she is not really interested in you either as a lover or a friend outside of work.
Well I'm not exactly enthusiastic to talk to her after a call like that. If she isn't interesting its cool with me, hi-bye status time.
 

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Yeah. Sounds like she's being a d*ck.

What are you doing/saying to her that would cause such an angry response? Are you texting her a lot? There's gotta be a reason behind this.
 

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First thing that pops into my head is that she has a jealous boyfriend who was accusing her of something with you, so she called you with him listening in to show him there was nothing going on.
 

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Are you texting her a lot?
No.

zekko said:
First thing that pops into my head is that she has a jealous boyfriend who was accusing her of something with you, so she called you with him listening in to show him there was nothing going on.
That came to my mind as well. No matter what the case is, I think its safe to say this prospect is finished.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Buddha_Mind said:
Sounds like she was being an azzhole -- IDK, boyfriend theory could be correct too. If either is true, stay away man, she won't help your life.
Yeah. This is usually the point at which I start sprinting for those hills. Unfortunately she works where I swim:nervous:

Hopefully a few fake smiles & hi is sufficient to keep things peaceful.
 

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You can always find a new place to swim...OR...just GO ON doing your thing like the conversation never happened. Give a nod, swim, get your **** done, get out of there. Or even just go when she's not working.
 
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