"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well...that was weird..

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So chick calls me up a few mins ago. She's one of the lifeguard chicks I've been talking to recently.

Her: Hey Kirro. Its [insert her name here]
Me: Hey, wassup?
Her: Do we ever hangout outside the pool?
Me: Huh? No.
Her: Do we talk to each other on the phone?
Me: No.
Her: Do we text?
Me: *chuckling* no.
Her: Okay, just wanted to know.
Me: Why?
Her: Just wanted to know.
Me: Okay.
Her: Later
me: Uh huh.

So what was the purpose of this call? I have some ideas but I want to hear what the SS detectives think.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kirro said:
So chick calls me up a few mins ago. She's one of the lifeguard chicks I've been talking to recently.

Her: Hey Kirro. Its [insert her name here]
Me: Hey, wassup?
Her: Do we ever hangout outside the pool?
Me: Huh? No.
Her: Do we talk to each other on the phone?
Me: No.
Her: Do we text?
Me: *chuckling* no.
Her: Okay, just wanted to know.
Me: Why?
Her: Just wanted to know.
Me: Okay.
Her: Later
me: Uh huh.

So what was the purpose of this call? I have some ideas but I want to hear what the SS detectives think.
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You say you have been talking to her recently but how in depth? Seems she might have forgotten about who you were exactly. Maybe she wanted to know why she had your number in her phone? You might not have made a memorable impression on her mind.
 
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She's one of the lifeguard chicks I've been talking to recently.
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umm... No you don't.

Seems like you blew this opportunity already. If you get a number... Use it.
 
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lol that was one weird call. She probably had a hidden motive I mean why would she call you to interrogate you to kinda justify why she should have/not have your phone number? She would always just delete it from her contacts or not at all. It's not like she needs your permission to delete it.

My feeling (just my personal feeling) was just her way of c*ckblocking you. Her way of letting you know she is not really interested in you either as a lover or a friend outside of work.
 
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f283000 said:
lol that was one weird call. She probably had a hidden motive I mean why would she call you to interrogate you to kinda justify why she should have/not have your phone number? She would always just delete it from her contacts or not at all. It's not like she needs your permission to delete it.

My feeling (just my personal feeling) was just her way of c*ckblocking you. Her way of letting you know she is not really interested in you either as a lover or a friend outside of work.
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Well I'm not exactly enthusiastic to talk to her after a call like that. If she isn't interesting its cool with me, hi-bye status time.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah. Sounds like she's being a d*ck.

What are you doing/saying to her that would cause such an angry response? Are you texting her a lot? There's gotta be a reason behind this.
 
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First thing that pops into my head is that she has a jealous boyfriend who was accusing her of something with you, so she called you with him listening in to show him there was nothing going on.
 
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Are you texting her a lot?
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No.

zekko said:
First thing that pops into my head is that she has a jealous boyfriend who was accusing her of something with you, so she called you with him listening in to show him there was nothing going on.
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That came to my mind as well. No matter what the case is, I think its safe to say this prospect is finished.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sounds like she was being an azzhole -- IDK, boyfriend theory could be correct too. If either is true, stay away man, she won't help your life.
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Yeah. This is usually the point at which I start sprinting for those hills. Unfortunately she works where I swim:nervous:

Hopefully a few fake smiles & hi is sufficient to keep things peaceful.
 
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You can always find a new place to swim...OR...just GO ON doing your thing like the conversation never happened. Give a nod, swim, get your **** done, get out of there. Or even just go when she's not working.
 
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