Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yea... of course. These things are a royal pain in the @ss. It's a full day process, of back and forth. But you have to stick to your guns. I really liked this one, freaking hot as hell, smoking bod, best BJs I've ever had. Smart, we had a lot in common, but I am not going to get tied down with anyone.
She'll be back.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
And what does that tell you about the majority of men? No wonder we have the problems we do. Attractive women don't handle rejection very well, and its not something they have to deal with very often in life. They are so accustomed to getting their way.
I like variety, and I really don't see any point in promising exclusivity. If I don't feel like dating other women I won't, why the fvck should I have to 'promise' that I won't. The first thing I say to women that want me to commit to a relationship is, "I have a better idea, why don't you be such an awesome chick that I don't want to see other women."
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Or in turn dig her, adapt your mindset, and enjoy the ride.
I've heard that one before. If that attitude had worked for any of those guys, one of them would still have her. But she didn't have enough respect for them to keep wanting them herself.
No problem with that. As long as you are remaining true to yourself and desire, and not acting out of fear spawn by previously negative experience(s).
This would be a very arrogant thing to actually say to a woman you are involved with...imo.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
i just saw your response to this question..nvrmind
A beta will cry that the relationship is over after only 3 months and claim there will never be another like her. No more awesome BJ's, etc.
The only way a DJ can walk away with a grin is to not get emotionally invested. This might sound cold, but the way most women try and play men today and considering what's at stake, it's best to keep it friendly and full of secks. Once that goes sour or gets old, time to next and move on. Most women are way too fvcked up today to play it any other way in my opinion.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
