"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Weird Situation
- Thread starter SHChamp
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I've been thinking of doing this.. For some reason I just feel like I'm some kind of support beacon for her and as soon as she gets her own back here I'll just be kicked to the curb like some stray dog.marmel75 said:
Should I just ignore her and move on? Or stay in touch with her? I just don't know.
What I want is to FINALLY just meet a girl I can have a serious relationship with that doesn't have some kind of insane mental deficiency that seeks for constant drama like my ex.. I am done with fvcking around..
And when she gets tired of you, she will chew you up and spit you out. The tears are manipulative and a tactic she uses to keep you attached. She has a boyfriend. And yet she slept with you?
She isn't relationship material, in my opinion.
She's trash and not worth it. I think you should find someone better, that won't put someone else first. Move on, cut your ties. Don't play second fiddle to someone else. If she wanted to be in a relationship with you, she would have broken up with her boyfriend by now, not cheated on him.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I really want to thank you both, I really appreciate you taking the time to give me advice. I just needed someone to tell it to me directly, yes, you're right. I am her plaything at the moment, she is manipulative and I should go after what I want.pinkfl said:
I am going to cut my ties with her and move on.