"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Weird Situation
- Thread starter SHChamp
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I've been thinking of doing this.. For some reason I just feel like I'm some kind of support beacon for her and as soon as she gets her own back here I'll just be kicked to the curb like some stray dog.marmel75 said:
Should I just ignore her and move on? Or stay in touch with her? I just don't know.
What I want is to FINALLY just meet a girl I can have a serious relationship with that doesn't have some kind of insane mental deficiency that seeks for constant drama like my ex.. I am done with fvcking around..
And when she gets tired of you, she will chew you up and spit you out. The tears are manipulative and a tactic she uses to keep you attached. She has a boyfriend. And yet she slept with you?
She isn't relationship material, in my opinion.
She's trash and not worth it. I think you should find someone better, that won't put someone else first. Move on, cut your ties. Don't play second fiddle to someone else. If she wanted to be in a relationship with you, she would have broken up with her boyfriend by now, not cheated on him.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I really want to thank you both, I really appreciate you taking the time to give me advice. I just needed someone to tell it to me directly, yes, you're right. I am her plaything at the moment, she is manipulative and I should go after what I want.pinkfl said:
I am going to cut my ties with her and move on.