"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I might as well post this.

Ok, so this girl who I had a bunch of classes with last year and whom I hardly ever talked to left me some wild ass myspace comment out of nowhere. She wrote a long ass comment about some teacher me and her made fun of and gave me her screename and email and wanted to know if I was in any classes with her. She finished it with xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox's and like a muah. It came out of nowhere which is whats so weird.

Anyway, what do you guys think of this and your opinions on how to respond. I have an idea how to, its just with aim, if I go to far on it, i fu,ck everything up. haha thanks
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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are u seriously posting about a myspace comment? .......and then stressing about screwing up with this girl?....... excuse me well I go beat myself over the head with a big azz maglite
 

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Alright lets see if I can try my hand at a better response. I have nothing against myspace it comes in very useful. And that comment you got great for you man! It's nothing to overanalyze maybe she threw you an IOI. Just do the usual methods to build her attraction and ask her out. If you mess up and/or get rejected its not a bad thing!!! Rejection is good.... at least thats how i see it.... (though it doesn't happen often to me, You'd be surprised how hard it really is to get rejected!!) rejection can be a great learning Experience!! Good Luck with the girl man!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Look, don't take this harshly dude, but surely SoSuave doesn't want to be using bandwidth on this topic.
 

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well she wrote to you about a teacher you were bagging on to have a funny conversation with you.
why would she want to do that? perhaps she likes you a little.

she gave you her screen name and email address so you would contact her again. subtle isnt it? perhaps she likes you a little.

she asks you if you are in any classes with her now, so she can see if she will be able to grab a seat next to you. why? perhaps she likes you a little.

xoxoxoxoxox = i like you
muah = kiss

what part didnt you get yet?
 

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sorry, its just myspace comments mean sh.t and most of the time girls are just messing around, but this seems more genuine bc she gave me her sn. thanks tho, I support bandwith preservation [=
 

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SexinEar said:
sorry, its just myspace comments mean sh.t and most of the time girls are just messing around, but this seems more genuine bc she gave me her sn. thanks tho, I support bandwith preservation [=
Hah, good on ya buddy.

Either way, have a chat to her. Follow it up if you like, and let us know how it turns out.

Good luck :)

EDIT: Added a smile. Gotta do that more often :D
 

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Send her a message and put your screen name in the message. Be like .whats up blah blah blah Hey my screen name is ______ ;-]. If she im's you she is interested. This is a great way to find out if she is interested at all. If she wants you she can come and get you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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