"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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PooMan

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OK so this gal ive been getting closer too lately, we were always friends but last week or so weve hung out alot more at college and shes texting me alot more

she texts me asking how work was and i tell her, so she says "well ill let you relax without me disturbing you"

thing is this isnt the 1st time shes text me then text me again finding a reason not to text me anymore

like the other day i didnt reply to a text for like half hour and when i did (i didnt tell her why or what i was doing) but she replied "wel your obviously busy so sorry to disturb you ill let you get back to what you were doing"

also when i was about to go to sleep the other night she text me saying "mike you cant go to sleep im bored blah blah blah" then in the next text she said "do ya wanna go to sleep?"

its kinda weird, sometimes i continue to text her but sometimes i just stop (like last night ididnt reply)

am i reading too much into it? how would you respond?

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Always remember that you are the prize. Flip the script on her, I would tell her yah I am busy I will call you later. Always make it your idea. Dont let her mess with you.
 
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Shes not messing with you. She like's you but shes not confident and afraid she will mess it up or piss you off. Try asking her out if you like her. But her lack of self confidence may be trouble later.
 
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Until you ask her out you'll never know what is going on...
 
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