jamesfromhouston
Senior Don Juan
Hey gents.
Would like some opinions on this.
A few nights ago, I met up with a girl at a hotel lounge. We had probably met up about 2 times since 2021. And each time we made out heavily and talked about having more "fun" somewhere more private next time.
So fast forward to recently. I tell her I'll book us something amazing hinting at a night at a swanky hotel. Each time she was game and keen to see me but I had to cancel last minute until a few nights ago I finally went through with the booking.
So anyway, on the night itself, we met at 10 pm at a upscale bar. Had some drinks. Immediately I was touchy as I usually am. She was receptive to my touch (hand on her lower back. Hand on thigh. Rubbing her legs.) but whenever I tried to kiss her. She would literally back away and push me away. I'd play it chill and try again but it would be forced kiss at best. At the time I put it down to public venue and maybe she was afraid to PDA. Although the first few times we made our it was public so that's confusing.
Eventually the bar was closed so we moved to the room together. When we got there, her body language seemed cold. So I wanted to warm her up slightly. We had a casual chat on the room couch and I poured some wine. Again I'd try to escalate and kiss her but she would literally push me away.
Eventually she tells me she is on her period. I said I don't mind. But she still would stop me from touching her. Even when I'm just trying to play with her breasts. She would stop me. So I back off a bit. She would then come to kiss me and get on top of me but then she'd back off before doing anything major to me. This went on for a bit. I eventually went for a shower and she told me she wanted to leave and so she left.
Honestly I'm quite confused. (Even if she was truly on her period which I couldnt verify because she would not let me touch her. We could have fun or make out. She was just 360 cold compared to before yet gave tons of mixed signals)
1) she seemed high interest on our first few dates.
2) she has been keen to meet me recently and said yes to all my invites.
3) she was more or less aware we'd probably hook up tonight and she kept telling me she was comfortable but she didn't want to do anything.
4) why was she so keen to meet up with me and continue everything we had if she had lost interest? Generally in my experience a low IL girl won't even be that receptive.
I'm mind****ed.
Has anyone experiencd this?
Any takeaways from this?
Would like some opinions on this.
A few nights ago, I met up with a girl at a hotel lounge. We had probably met up about 2 times since 2021. And each time we made out heavily and talked about having more "fun" somewhere more private next time.
So fast forward to recently. I tell her I'll book us something amazing hinting at a night at a swanky hotel. Each time she was game and keen to see me but I had to cancel last minute until a few nights ago I finally went through with the booking.
So anyway, on the night itself, we met at 10 pm at a upscale bar. Had some drinks. Immediately I was touchy as I usually am. She was receptive to my touch (hand on her lower back. Hand on thigh. Rubbing her legs.) but whenever I tried to kiss her. She would literally back away and push me away. I'd play it chill and try again but it would be forced kiss at best. At the time I put it down to public venue and maybe she was afraid to PDA. Although the first few times we made our it was public so that's confusing.
Eventually the bar was closed so we moved to the room together. When we got there, her body language seemed cold. So I wanted to warm her up slightly. We had a casual chat on the room couch and I poured some wine. Again I'd try to escalate and kiss her but she would literally push me away.
Eventually she tells me she is on her period. I said I don't mind. But she still would stop me from touching her. Even when I'm just trying to play with her breasts. She would stop me. So I back off a bit. She would then come to kiss me and get on top of me but then she'd back off before doing anything major to me. This went on for a bit. I eventually went for a shower and she told me she wanted to leave and so she left.
Honestly I'm quite confused. (Even if she was truly on her period which I couldnt verify because she would not let me touch her. We could have fun or make out. She was just 360 cold compared to before yet gave tons of mixed signals)
1) she seemed high interest on our first few dates.
2) she has been keen to meet me recently and said yes to all my invites.
3) she was more or less aware we'd probably hook up tonight and she kept telling me she was comfortable but she didn't want to do anything.
4) why was she so keen to meet up with me and continue everything we had if she had lost interest? Generally in my experience a low IL girl won't even be that receptive.
I'm mind****ed.
Has anyone experiencd this?
Any takeaways from this?
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