The only advice I have for you is to make clear from the start what you want, not sure exactly how your initial meeting went, but she clearly had no idea what you were after. She's selling cheese... maybe she thought you were a cheese wholesaler... who knows but once you clarified what you wanted... then you got the push back.
I think
@Apone didn't make his intentions clear in the moment. This is a woman at work and in business mode. She didn't know this guy wanted some sort of date with her. I think she thought he wanted something to do with her related to her work. It can be difficult to get women out of work mode when hitting on them while she's working a job or hitting on her at a business networking event. I don't recommend hunting for mating options in either of those places.
It was a subpar in-person approach which led to the problems after the fact. I think text messaging made it worse, though this would have been uncomfortable in a voice call after the fact too. There's very little voice calling anymore in early stages of mating interactions anymore.
What are some good boyfriend destroyer lines you recommend?
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The success of boyfriend destroyer lines is related to your Early Frame Announcement (EFA). With a female with a boyfriend, if you try to position yourself as a shorter term lover, you might be able to use a boyfriend destroyer to get yourself some shorter term sex while the woman keeps the boyfriend.
It's a more difficult play to use a boyfriend destroyer when you are trying to position yourself as boyfriend material.
I didn't learn about the boyfriend destroyer tactic until later in my seduction journey. I have gotten IHAB'ed much less since I learned about it. I have not gotten IHAB'ed much at all after 2010 after getting IHAB'ed in the 2000s a bunch. I believe that I haven't been getting the IHAB because women can sense my game is sophisticated and I will push back on the IHAB.
I actually thought the IHAB was dead.
Every time that you get an IHAB, you must push back with a "boyfriend destroyer line". The IHAB line is an earlier version of Last Minute Resistance. Even if the boyfriend destroyer line doesn't work, you're still building your own game and showing that you are not a docile beta male. That's why I encourage to push back hard on IHAB. It probably won't work but there is a small chance that it will.
I agree with you that the best way to get a woman with a boyfriend is her thinking you are the more attractive option.
The infield video taken below in April-May 2021 shows that the IHAB is still alive.
I counted him getting IHAB'ed 3 times in that video. He had stated earlier in the video that he was a daygame beginner.
I've only used a destroyer line no more than 2 times and it didn't work.
I've never seen it work in the field but my own sample size is far too small.
I still recommend its use and I will use it if I get the objection. The problem is that I rarely ever get that objection.
If a woman says she is taken... just move on. For a couple of reason... you really don't know if she really has a BF or not. Could be she's just saying that to brush you off.
Forget what she says... pay attention to what she does. You tried to make a date, and she didn't go along. That is what she did... so do both of you a favor and forget about her.
Getting the 'IHAB' line is usually a sign of weak game. The daygame beginnner in the video above from 2021 was getting it because his daygame was not on point.
I believe that men won't actually get IHAB'ed if their game is strong enough.
We have a situation here where a guy is trying to sell himself as a potential boyfriend on a date over text message. That's a difficult idea to sell to a woman when approaching her as a stranger in person, let alone over text message subsequent to a random in person encounter.
