"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Weird, but probably common problem.

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Fvrthebrave

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Ok, so I've been talking to this girl pretty often. We wanted to meet up so we met at a restaurant. I brought a friend and she brought a friend too. I have no problem talking to girls, so that's not where the problem lies. She was really flirty with me, I could tell she was interested. The problem is, she is just coming out of a breakup and I made the mistake of kissing her. All I did was kiss her and then we left.

Ever since that night, she seems a lot more distant. I don't regret kissing her, I even warned her before I did it because I know the situation she is in and I didn't want to piss her off by just going for it. The thing is, she let me do it but now she continuously tells me that she "needs more time" and she is always "busy". She also complains and says it would be "weird" dating me since I'm going to college and she will still be in high school. Usually, I would tell her that if that's her choice, so be it, but I find it hard to just move on from this one. Any input or advice? Go ahead and criticize me on all I did wrong too. I like it :crackup:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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there's basically nothing more you can do. any other contact you make with her will just come off as desperate and annoying. doesn't mean you dont have a chance, it just means you have to take her up on what she said and give some space. she might call you in a week or so, might not. I just went through a similar situation this weekend it really pissed me off because i like the girl a lot but at this point theres really nothing left you can do.
 
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She texts me everyday. And says she wants to get to know me more, but she has been "busy" all the time.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Nevermind, case closed. I told her we will hangout when I can. I'll give it a few weeks. I need some time to myself anyway. **** girls!
 
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Turns out we were both at the same place at the same time and she begged me to come see her before her movie started, but I didn't. Then she told me to meet her after, so I did and she was with her sister and her new boyfriend hahahahaa:rolleyes:

Oh well, her loss.
 
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still, b1tch move by her. I fvcking hate girls like that.
 
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