"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Weird, but probably common problem.

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Ok, so I've been talking to this girl pretty often. We wanted to meet up so we met at a restaurant. I brought a friend and she brought a friend too. I have no problem talking to girls, so that's not where the problem lies. She was really flirty with me, I could tell she was interested. The problem is, she is just coming out of a breakup and I made the mistake of kissing her. All I did was kiss her and then we left.

Ever since that night, she seems a lot more distant. I don't regret kissing her, I even warned her before I did it because I know the situation she is in and I didn't want to piss her off by just going for it. The thing is, she let me do it but now she continuously tells me that she "needs more time" and she is always "busy". She also complains and says it would be "weird" dating me since I'm going to college and she will still be in high school. Usually, I would tell her that if that's her choice, so be it, but I find it hard to just move on from this one. Any input or advice? Go ahead and criticize me on all I did wrong too. I like it :crackup:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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there's basically nothing more you can do. any other contact you make with her will just come off as desperate and annoying. doesn't mean you dont have a chance, it just means you have to take her up on what she said and give some space. she might call you in a week or so, might not. I just went through a similar situation this weekend it really pissed me off because i like the girl a lot but at this point theres really nothing left you can do.
 
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She texts me everyday. And says she wants to get to know me more, but she has been "busy" all the time.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Nevermind, case closed. I told her we will hangout when I can. I'll give it a few weeks. I need some time to myself anyway. **** girls!
 
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Turns out we were both at the same place at the same time and she begged me to come see her before her movie started, but I didn't. Then she told me to meet her after, so I did and she was with her sister and her new boyfriend hahahahaa:rolleyes:

Oh well, her loss.
 
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still, b1tch move by her. I fvcking hate girls like that.
 
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