She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
If you're being sarcastic........stop and think about what you just said. Do you think one exception makes it a myth? come on, you know there's an exception to every rule.Originally posted by MetalFortress
My weightlifting coach is about 5'8 or 5'9. His wife is the same height. Their oldest son, Casey Burgener, is 6'1 and a world class olympic weightlifter who has been training since age 5.
Yeah, weightlifting stunts growth.
Exactly. While it may not be common, it is still could happen if you push yourself just a little bit too hard. It may just be coincidence, but most of the REALLY strong guys in my highschool who started lifting big weight in middleschool were like 5'8" and below. Doctors are cautious about having you lift huge weight when you're still growing, and they're not stupid for cautioning you either.Originally posted by DJ_in_making
If you're being sarcastic........stop and think about what you just said. Do you think one exception makes it a myth? come on, you know there's an exception to every rule.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It's been scientifically proven that weightlifting doesn't stunt growth. Do you want to try to argue against scientific fact? Didn't think so. In fact, the extra growth hormone caused by weightlifting should push growth to INCREASED levels, as was shown with my coach's son.Originally posted by DJ_in_making
If you're being sarcastic........stop and think about what you just said. Do you think one exception makes it a myth? come on, you know there's an exception to every rule.