"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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pyros

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I did martial arts for around 6 years. I really enjoyed it, everytime I had to go I was motivated, I spent time on my own training and practicing; besides, I learned about asian traditions, self defense, discipline, kindness, etc. I also made a few friends that last until today.
That was five years ago.

When I finished college and started to work I swiched martial arts with weight lifting because I wanted to look more muscular and it also fitted my schedule better (you can go anytime to the gym).

The thing is that I've been goin to the gym for several years now and I havent achieved the results I desired; besides, I find it boring as fvck.

So... I have this dilemma:
If I quit going to the gym and start martial arts again I will lose my athletic body (nothing amazing but people notice) but I will be happier, because I do enjoy martial arts but I do not enjoy weight lifting.
However, going to martial arts 3 times per week doesnt always fit my schedule, so I may just have to skip it once or twice a week depending on how many things I have to do that week, but going to the gym always fit my schedule.

I also think that I need to be strong in order to complete martial arts training, because if I learn self defense but I have little strength...it doesnt make much sense.

I cannot do both activities.

Thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Macaframalama

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I also think that I need to be strong in order to complete martial arts training, because if I learn self defense but I have little strength...it doesnt make much sense.
Self defense and martial arts doesn't have as much to do with strength as it does manipulating leverages. However, you can never be strong enough imo. When you say weightlifting, are you talking about Olympic lifting, the bodybuilding fluff stuff or have you ever even ran a proven strength program?
 

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I think you ve preset your parameters. To lift at home u need a simple folding bench some dumbbells and a mat. Y can't u do both.

Self defense and martial arts r two different things. It sounds like u we're doing some gung ho karate. U don't need strength to:

parry a jab with a palm block and use its force to power an eye jab (wing chun)

Round kick the side of a knee ( muay Thai)

Parry and elbow smash their fist when they try a haymaker (Kali or Silat)

And if this sounds like some serious ****. U pull out when cornered in a dark alley by 3 guys damned straight. Anything else is u being a fool.
 

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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If you aren’t getting the results you want from weightlifting you are not doing it right. If it’s been several years then you likely never will do it right. Go back to martial arts even though it’s all BS in western countries.
 

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If it take strength to pull off, it's not a martial arts move. The point of the martial art is that it gives a man with less strength the knowledge to defeat a stronger man.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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