"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Right, so this weekend I went shoping for mothers day. There, while I was perusing a certian store, I saw a HB9. Now, I had seen her once before at my friends old school. So I approached and spoke to her.

Bla bla bla, turned it into a bit of a mini-date as we both went shopping and later for coffee.

Now, I wasn't really looking for any numbers, so I didn't close. Besides, I've got a girlfriend so it's not like I really wanted her # either. Just another calling expense.

But as I said my farewell, and turned around and walked three steps, she quickly called after me and whispered to me where she works. Like as though she wanted me to visit her.

*chuckles*

So now, a few days later, I'm thinking: she really does sound like she'd make a nice friend. ;-) So I've only seen this scene played out in the movies, but hell no I'm not looking there for guidance. Do I just walk into her department at lunch time and say I'm looking for her? Then proceed to say we're going for a cup of tea downstairs or what? :-/

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Depends on what kind of store she works in,if you're looking for an excuse to be there say "I wanted this product/service and since you work here i decided to let you give me a discount".
 

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Nah... accounting department at this building. :p Right next to the hospital. About 30 seconds away from my Gym.
 

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Keeper said:
Nah... accounting department at this building. :p Right next to the hospital. About 30 seconds away from my Gym.
Whoa whoa whoa,she works 30 seconds away from your gym. Ok just tell her to come work out with you,and after you work out you hit the sana,jaccuzi etc.
 

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Yeah, the gym's right accros the building. Great idea blink. But... go back a few squares. I'm not really sure how to act once I enter a building filled with accountats in bowties. Y'know...

Do I go to reception and say: "Hey, I'm her to see ..."?

or do I go to the third floor and poke around till I find her?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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GloriouslyInsane said:
Depends on what kind of store she works in,if you're looking for an excuse to be there say "I wanted this product/service and since you work here i decided to let you give me a discount".
Excuse to be there? No can do, I don't make excuses. If anything, I'll be usually honest and tell her I dropped in to annoy her. :)
 

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You can say to a receptionist,"Hi could you page (name) for me" and then when she comes up from just ask her if she can go on a short walk. From there you get her number,call her up, get in a spa...you can take it from there.
Dont snope around,you may look desperate doing that.
It may actually look better if you stop by and she happens to be out,if thats the case just leave you number for her to call you(helps to filter out how much you mean to her,if you mean something she will call).
 

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kk, I'll go tomorrow just before lunch. :)
 
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