"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Right, so this weekend I went shoping for mothers day. There, while I was perusing a certian store, I saw a HB9. Now, I had seen her once before at my friends old school. So I approached and spoke to her.

Bla bla bla, turned it into a bit of a mini-date as we both went shopping and later for coffee.

Now, I wasn't really looking for any numbers, so I didn't close. Besides, I've got a girlfriend so it's not like I really wanted her # either. Just another calling expense.

But as I said my farewell, and turned around and walked three steps, she quickly called after me and whispered to me where she works. Like as though she wanted me to visit her.

*chuckles*

So now, a few days later, I'm thinking: she really does sound like she'd make a nice friend. ;-) So I've only seen this scene played out in the movies, but hell no I'm not looking there for guidance. Do I just walk into her department at lunch time and say I'm looking for her? Then proceed to say we're going for a cup of tea downstairs or what? :-/

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Depends on what kind of store she works in,if you're looking for an excuse to be there say "I wanted this product/service and since you work here i decided to let you give me a discount".
 

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Nah... accounting department at this building. :p Right next to the hospital. About 30 seconds away from my Gym.
 

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Keeper said:
Nah... accounting department at this building. :p Right next to the hospital. About 30 seconds away from my Gym.
Whoa whoa whoa,she works 30 seconds away from your gym. Ok just tell her to come work out with you,and after you work out you hit the sana,jaccuzi etc.
 

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Yeah, the gym's right accros the building. Great idea blink. But... go back a few squares. I'm not really sure how to act once I enter a building filled with accountats in bowties. Y'know...

Do I go to reception and say: "Hey, I'm her to see ..."?

or do I go to the third floor and poke around till I find her?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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GloriouslyInsane said:
Depends on what kind of store she works in,if you're looking for an excuse to be there say "I wanted this product/service and since you work here i decided to let you give me a discount".
Excuse to be there? No can do, I don't make excuses. If anything, I'll be usually honest and tell her I dropped in to annoy her. :)
 

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You can say to a receptionist,"Hi could you page (name) for me" and then when she comes up from just ask her if she can go on a short walk. From there you get her number,call her up, get in a spa...you can take it from there.
Dont snope around,you may look desperate doing that.
It may actually look better if you stop by and she happens to be out,if thats the case just leave you number for her to call you(helps to filter out how much you mean to her,if you mean something she will call).
 

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kk, I'll go tomorrow just before lunch. :)
 
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