Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Bible_Belt

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In light of recent juvenile antics on this web site, we need to make more people moderators. I mean nothing against our current mods, but the more people we have who can delete the garbage, then the less time it will stay on the site.

I suggest that we take a couple dozen users off the top of the "members list" link above, when sorted by either reputation or post count, and make those people moderators. I am included in that list, but I would be fine with this group having less power than the other mods and only directed to delete spam and the obvious kkk bullsh1t that is all over the site right now. The less time it stays up, the less of a thrill it is for the kid posting it. He will get bored and go back to his porn, and we can get back to seducing women.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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THE_ADDMAN

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Agreed, this board has become too easy for trolls to spam on recently
 

Vincent

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I wouldn't mind having a couple more mods around but it really isn't necessary at the moment. We have 3-4 really active mods that do a good job of keeping the forums clean. Sometimes things just take a little while to clean up, but the new forum system makes moderation pretty easy.
 

Demon

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I think the members database should be purged of all truly inactive accounts (e.g., accounts with 0 posts; accounts registered long ago and never visited.) How would that solve the problem of spam? I don't know, but I think a cleaner database would improve performance at least. :)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Bible_Belt said:
...I suggest that we take a couple dozen users off the top of the "members list" link above, when sorted by either reputation or post count, and make those people moderators...
That's a scary idea... :whistle:
 

Vincent

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
That's a scary idea... :whistle:
It's a good thing the current moderators get final say :)
 

Deep Dish

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I've always had a deep seated desire to moderate a forum... but then I remember my plans to never be a parent. Scratch that idea off the list.
 

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Docs Master Don Juan
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That's the top dozen. I think that's a good selection. Shezz and A-Unit are definitely good, I'm sure Warboss would love to moderate the Health Forum, Killa always liked to post in Tips..

Meh.
 

KillaCam

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First rule of becoming a Moderator, never ask or imply about becoming a Moderator.

I really don't know who I directed that at. I guess watching Fight Club just then didn't help.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Haha, this one works wonders. Be good friends with the Administrator, that's an instant in. ;)


Too bad nobody I know is friends with him! :(
 

Vincent

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Docs said:
Haha, this one works wonders. Be good friends with the Administrator, that's an instant in. ;)


Too bad nobody I know is friends with him! :(
Too bad no one even know's who he is. Even the moderators are hazy as to who Allen Thompson actually is.
 

TheVirtualMind

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Oh come on, it's too AFC to ask to be a moderator. You usually have to give great advice, be around for a long time, and have excellent reputation before being CONSIDERED a mod...

*Looks at my posts, join date, and rep*

Ok, so I don't know how you become a mod...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This site has moderators? could have fooled me
 

Vincent

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With DreamX as the administrator apparently
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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