"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bible_Belt

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In light of recent juvenile antics on this web site, we need to make more people moderators. I mean nothing against our current mods, but the more people we have who can delete the garbage, then the less time it will stay on the site.

I suggest that we take a couple dozen users off the top of the "members list" link above, when sorted by either reputation or post count, and make those people moderators. I am included in that list, but I would be fine with this group having less power than the other mods and only directed to delete spam and the obvious kkk bullsh1t that is all over the site right now. The less time it stays up, the less of a thrill it is for the kid posting it. He will get bored and go back to his porn, and we can get back to seducing women.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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THE_ADDMAN

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Agreed, this board has become too easy for trolls to spam on recently
 

Vincent

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I wouldn't mind having a couple more mods around but it really isn't necessary at the moment. We have 3-4 really active mods that do a good job of keeping the forums clean. Sometimes things just take a little while to clean up, but the new forum system makes moderation pretty easy.
 

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I think the members database should be purged of all truly inactive accounts (e.g., accounts with 0 posts; accounts registered long ago and never visited.) How would that solve the problem of spam? I don't know, but I think a cleaner database would improve performance at least. :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Bible_Belt said:
...I suggest that we take a couple dozen users off the top of the "members list" link above, when sorted by either reputation or post count, and make those people moderators...
That's a scary idea... :whistle:
 

Vincent

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
That's a scary idea... :whistle:
It's a good thing the current moderators get final say :)
 

Deep Dish

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I've always had a deep seated desire to moderate a forum... but then I remember my plans to never be a parent. Scratch that idea off the list.
 

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That's the top dozen. I think that's a good selection. Shezz and A-Unit are definitely good, I'm sure Warboss would love to moderate the Health Forum, Killa always liked to post in Tips..

Meh.
 

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First rule of becoming a Moderator, never ask or imply about becoming a Moderator.

I really don't know who I directed that at. I guess watching Fight Club just then didn't help.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Haha, this one works wonders. Be good friends with the Administrator, that's an instant in. ;)


Too bad nobody I know is friends with him! :(
 

Vincent

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Docs said:
Haha, this one works wonders. Be good friends with the Administrator, that's an instant in. ;)


Too bad nobody I know is friends with him! :(
Too bad no one even know's who he is. Even the moderators are hazy as to who Allen Thompson actually is.
 

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Oh come on, it's too AFC to ask to be a moderator. You usually have to give great advice, be around for a long time, and have excellent reputation before being CONSIDERED a mod...

*Looks at my posts, join date, and rep*

Ok, so I don't know how you become a mod...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Vincent

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This site has moderators? could have fooled me
 

Vincent

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With DreamX as the administrator apparently
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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