"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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We are not mind readers

CAPSLOCK BANDIT

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We don't know what's going on in their heads, that's the biggest take away I've learned in my years away, we may think we know but IOI is not some mind reading tool, truthfully the only things we know are the ideas we put there ourselves.

We are not mind readers.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I have years of developing body language reading due to my job, I don't disagree but it's also not straight forward all the time, it's a good supplement but it alone isn't enough.

Its a good observation
Well mind-reading may not be ideal either with how much they lie to themselves. Gotta use every tool you can to peg 'em.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Even in my ltr's I am still expected to read minds. They still get "giddy" when I get lucky and read them corectly. Goofy Women.
How many women does it take to screw in a light bulb?

One. She just holds the bulb and waits for the world to revolve around her.
 

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Judge women by their actions, not their words.

“I’m hot for you baby” but the frequency and quality of s*x is poor = “I would rather bang someone else, the thought of touching you makes me want to throw up’.
 

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It is not reading minds. They are sending clear signals to men they like.
 

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Judge women by their actions, not their words.



“I’m hot for you baby” but the frequency and quality of s*x is poor = “I would rather bang someone else, the thought of touching you makes me want to throw up’.
This is the case of two girls I know: both are in a relationship, but when they are visibly horny, probably due to their ovulation period, it’s like they are monkeybranching me. Then, for some reason, they go back to their boyfriend. Now mix and repeat for the last 8 months.

This is not the role of the female. The man leads in bed. If you want better quality sex, then have better quality sex, you are the man, you are there to give her sex. She's the receiver of sex. You want hot dirty sex, then lead by example.
You have never ****ed with the horny women. You have to see how kinky they are and they will ask you to do things to them. They are very imaginative
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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