"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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We are not mind readers

CAPSLOCK BANDIT

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We don't know what's going on in their heads, that's the biggest take away I've learned in my years away, we may think we know but IOI is not some mind reading tool, truthfully the only things we know are the ideas we put there ourselves.

We are not mind readers.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I have years of developing body language reading due to my job, I don't disagree but it's also not straight forward all the time, it's a good supplement but it alone isn't enough.

Its a good observation
Well mind-reading may not be ideal either with how much they lie to themselves. Gotta use every tool you can to peg 'em.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BillyPilgrim

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Even in my ltr's I am still expected to read minds. They still get "giddy" when I get lucky and read them corectly. Goofy Women.
How many women does it take to screw in a light bulb?

One. She just holds the bulb and waits for the world to revolve around her.
 

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Judge women by their actions, not their words.

“I’m hot for you baby” but the frequency and quality of s*x is poor = “I would rather bang someone else, the thought of touching you makes me want to throw up’.
 

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It is not reading minds. They are sending clear signals to men they like.
 

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Judge women by their actions, not their words.



“I’m hot for you baby” but the frequency and quality of s*x is poor = “I would rather bang someone else, the thought of touching you makes me want to throw up’.
This is the case of two girls I know: both are in a relationship, but when they are visibly horny, probably due to their ovulation period, it’s like they are monkeybranching me. Then, for some reason, they go back to their boyfriend. Now mix and repeat for the last 8 months.

This is not the role of the female. The man leads in bed. If you want better quality sex, then have better quality sex, you are the man, you are there to give her sex. She's the receiver of sex. You want hot dirty sex, then lead by example.
You have never ****ed with the horny women. You have to see how kinky they are and they will ask you to do things to them. They are very imaginative
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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