"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"We are going to hangout soon"

pvf94

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I was just sitting here listening to some music, thinking about random things. And I wondered if this would be effective...

Im a senior in high-school and I talk to females often in class. I wanna know what your thoughts are on this...

Say we are sitting in class and I got a HB laughing and feeling free around me, it seem's all to easy but...would saying "We need to hangout soon" or something very similiar to that be effective?

This was more of a spur of the moment thought, and I began to wonder why I dont do this already.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Krak

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Try to avoid using "hang out". She will tend to see you as more of a friend. Instead, actually come up with an idea and say something along the lines of, " I'm going to bla....it'll be fun, want to come?" 99% of the time, if she's interested, she will say yes.
 

Babnik

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I disagree. How often do you go somewhere by yourself where you would take a girl with you?

You have to say HANG OUT but imply that its a date sort of thing.


Hell, people will tell you both ways.
 

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Man, I joke around all the time, so I'll say, 'So, do you want to go do whatever, it'll be like a date!'. Chicks love it though, but I'm a high energy person so it's a joke at the same time.

This one time, me and this girl made up a word for a date, it wasn't 'date', but it was like...our own word, we'd be going on a 'somethingdate'

I wish I could remember. -_-
 

The Forms

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"we should hang out sometime" is fine if you're leading to something very specific at the moment.

you:we should hang out sometime
her: totally. that would be awesome
you: cool. We should (mention something particular, like see a band) on friday. (don't be afraid to ask for a weekend night. That implies date. Which is good)
Her: that sounds like fun
You: it will be. Give me your number and I'll work out tickets for the show.

See, "we should hang out" is really vague. It works better to get the number and be specific about things.

Understand that if you set up something one on one with a girl she's going to assume that it is a date. Because it is. So that's how you turn "we should hang out" into a date.
 

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asdfghjkl

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I agree with everyone that posted already, however i use "hang out" a lot. For me it all comes down to body language, if she's showing me she's attracted to me, it doesn't really matter what i say, as long as i get her out on that date.

I like using that line "we should hang out" because its not very threatening, and there is very little chance that she will shoot you down.
 
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