"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"We are going to hangout soon"

pvf94

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I was just sitting here listening to some music, thinking about random things. And I wondered if this would be effective...

Im a senior in high-school and I talk to females often in class. I wanna know what your thoughts are on this...

Say we are sitting in class and I got a HB laughing and feeling free around me, it seem's all to easy but...would saying "We need to hangout soon" or something very similiar to that be effective?

This was more of a spur of the moment thought, and I began to wonder why I dont do this already.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Krak

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Try to avoid using "hang out". She will tend to see you as more of a friend. Instead, actually come up with an idea and say something along the lines of, " I'm going to bla....it'll be fun, want to come?" 99% of the time, if she's interested, she will say yes.
 

Babnik

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I disagree. How often do you go somewhere by yourself where you would take a girl with you?

You have to say HANG OUT but imply that its a date sort of thing.


Hell, people will tell you both ways.
 

Docs

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Man, I joke around all the time, so I'll say, 'So, do you want to go do whatever, it'll be like a date!'. Chicks love it though, but I'm a high energy person so it's a joke at the same time.

This one time, me and this girl made up a word for a date, it wasn't 'date', but it was like...our own word, we'd be going on a 'somethingdate'

I wish I could remember. -_-
 

The Forms

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"we should hang out sometime" is fine if you're leading to something very specific at the moment.

you:we should hang out sometime
her: totally. that would be awesome
you: cool. We should (mention something particular, like see a band) on friday. (don't be afraid to ask for a weekend night. That implies date. Which is good)
Her: that sounds like fun
You: it will be. Give me your number and I'll work out tickets for the show.

See, "we should hang out" is really vague. It works better to get the number and be specific about things.

Understand that if you set up something one on one with a girl she's going to assume that it is a date. Because it is. So that's how you turn "we should hang out" into a date.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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asdfghjkl

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I agree with everyone that posted already, however i use "hang out" a lot. For me it all comes down to body language, if she's showing me she's attracted to me, it doesn't really matter what i say, as long as i get her out on that date.

I like using that line "we should hang out" because its not very threatening, and there is very little chance that she will shoot you down.
 
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