I have a suggestion that on the sosuave site there should be a questionnaire for visitors to fill out. In this it should ask visitors to answer a series of multiple choice questions. Then at the end they get advice on what articles they should read to improve or what posts they should read from the forum. I feel this will help djs to rate there skills and show them how they can improve there technique.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Spike_the_Dragon
Senior Don Juan
Too cold and methodical, IMO.
diablo
Master Don Juan
I've got a better idea. How about you make this survey/quiz, then link us to the completed result. We'll test it out on a random sample group, and if the results are favorable then it will be evaluated by a board of moderators before being passed along to the site admin. If it passes through all of these steps without being vetoed, then it will become a part of the site.
The SoSuave beaurocracy...
The SoSuave beaurocracy...
I veto it already.Originally posted by diablo
I've got a better idea. How about you make this survey/quiz, then link us to the completed result. We'll test it out on a random sample group, and if the results are favorable then it will be evaluated by a board of moderators before being passed along to the site admin. If it passes through all of these steps without being vetoed, then it will become a part of the site.
The SoSuave beaurocracy...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Is this because you do not want to do the due diligence of reading everything as to get a thorough knowledge of DJism?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
squirrels
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It's an art, not a science.
Can you judge a painter's skill at painting with a multiple choice test? Or a musician's instrumental/vocal talent?
Saying its an art and not a science dosnt mean you cant get advice and a broad spectrum of dj questions, also i know all the dj stuff on this site is good but its nothing to do with not wanting to read it all, its to pinpoint parts you should brush up on.
squirrels
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Yes, as a matter of fact, saying it's an art and not a science means EXACTLY that. Every situation is different. There is no "right answer." It's all in your attitude and expression.
There is no "right answer." You're still thinking about dating and seduction like they're logical sciences.
Just because you know what tool to use to hit a nail doesn't make you a master carpenter.
Squirrels if you cant learn to improve your game why does this site exist? You can learn to be a better artist, just like you can learn to be a better dj. The thing im talking about will not allow you to be amazing in every situation its just a method which people can use to learn or improve just like a thing to tel you what stage you are at or to point you in the right direction.
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Apparently in Sweden, some guy made a mathematical formula for picking up...
The problem with turning "art" (ie. conversation skills, DJing, etc) into a "science" is that you end up with rules lawyers. "Justin Timberlake is AFC", "talking to a girl while rotating your pinky 2 inches to the left of your thigh is AFC".
You can't put rules to dating. You can have general principles, but most of it depends on your own initiative and intuition.
The problem with turning "art" (ie. conversation skills, DJing, etc) into a "science" is that you end up with rules lawyers. "Justin Timberlake is AFC", "talking to a girl while rotating your pinky 2 inches to the left of your thigh is AFC".
You can't put rules to dating. You can have general principles, but most of it depends on your own initiative and intuition.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.