I have a suggestion that on the sosuave site there should be a questionnaire for visitors to fill out. In this it should ask visitors to answer a series of multiple choice questions. Then at the end they get advice on what articles they should read to improve or what posts they should read from the forum. I feel this will help djs to rate there skills and show them how they can improve there technique.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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- Thread starter wildchild
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Spike_the_Dragon
Senior Don Juan
Too cold and methodical, IMO.
diablo
Master Don Juan
I've got a better idea. How about you make this survey/quiz, then link us to the completed result. We'll test it out on a random sample group, and if the results are favorable then it will be evaluated by a board of moderators before being passed along to the site admin. If it passes through all of these steps without being vetoed, then it will become a part of the site.
The SoSuave beaurocracy...
The SoSuave beaurocracy...
I veto it already.Originally posted by diablo
I've got a better idea. How about you make this survey/quiz, then link us to the completed result. We'll test it out on a random sample group, and if the results are favorable then it will be evaluated by a board of moderators before being passed along to the site admin. If it passes through all of these steps without being vetoed, then it will become a part of the site.
The SoSuave beaurocracy...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Is this because you do not want to do the due diligence of reading everything as to get a thorough knowledge of DJism?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
squirrels
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It's an art, not a science.
Can you judge a painter's skill at painting with a multiple choice test? Or a musician's instrumental/vocal talent?
Saying its an art and not a science dosnt mean you cant get advice and a broad spectrum of dj questions, also i know all the dj stuff on this site is good but its nothing to do with not wanting to read it all, its to pinpoint parts you should brush up on.
squirrels
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Yes, as a matter of fact, saying it's an art and not a science means EXACTLY that. Every situation is different. There is no "right answer." It's all in your attitude and expression.
There is no "right answer." You're still thinking about dating and seduction like they're logical sciences.
Just because you know what tool to use to hit a nail doesn't make you a master carpenter.
Squirrels if you cant learn to improve your game why does this site exist? You can learn to be a better artist, just like you can learn to be a better dj. The thing im talking about will not allow you to be amazing in every situation its just a method which people can use to learn or improve just like a thing to tel you what stage you are at or to point you in the right direction.
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Apparently in Sweden, some guy made a mathematical formula for picking up...
The problem with turning "art" (ie. conversation skills, DJing, etc) into a "science" is that you end up with rules lawyers. "Justin Timberlake is AFC", "talking to a girl while rotating your pinky 2 inches to the left of your thigh is AFC".
You can't put rules to dating. You can have general principles, but most of it depends on your own initiative and intuition.
The problem with turning "art" (ie. conversation skills, DJing, etc) into a "science" is that you end up with rules lawyers. "Justin Timberlake is AFC", "talking to a girl while rotating your pinky 2 inches to the left of your thigh is AFC".
You can't put rules to dating. You can have general principles, but most of it depends on your own initiative and intuition.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.