I have a suggestion that on the sosuave site there should be a questionnaire for visitors to fill out. In this it should ask visitors to answer a series of multiple choice questions. Then at the end they get advice on what articles they should read to improve or what posts they should read from the forum. I feel this will help djs to rate there skills and show them how they can improve there technique.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Spike_the_Dragon
Senior Don Juan
Too cold and methodical, IMO.
diablo
Master Don Juan
I've got a better idea. How about you make this survey/quiz, then link us to the completed result. We'll test it out on a random sample group, and if the results are favorable then it will be evaluated by a board of moderators before being passed along to the site admin. If it passes through all of these steps without being vetoed, then it will become a part of the site.
The SoSuave beaurocracy...
The SoSuave beaurocracy...
I veto it already.Originally posted by diablo
I've got a better idea. How about you make this survey/quiz, then link us to the completed result. We'll test it out on a random sample group, and if the results are favorable then it will be evaluated by a board of moderators before being passed along to the site admin. If it passes through all of these steps without being vetoed, then it will become a part of the site.
The SoSuave beaurocracy...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Is this because you do not want to do the due diligence of reading everything as to get a thorough knowledge of DJism?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
squirrels
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It's an art, not a science.
Can you judge a painter's skill at painting with a multiple choice test? Or a musician's instrumental/vocal talent?
Saying its an art and not a science dosnt mean you cant get advice and a broad spectrum of dj questions, also i know all the dj stuff on this site is good but its nothing to do with not wanting to read it all, its to pinpoint parts you should brush up on.
squirrels
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Yes, as a matter of fact, saying it's an art and not a science means EXACTLY that. Every situation is different. There is no "right answer." It's all in your attitude and expression.
There is no "right answer." You're still thinking about dating and seduction like they're logical sciences.
Just because you know what tool to use to hit a nail doesn't make you a master carpenter.
Squirrels if you cant learn to improve your game why does this site exist? You can learn to be a better artist, just like you can learn to be a better dj. The thing im talking about will not allow you to be amazing in every situation its just a method which people can use to learn or improve just like a thing to tel you what stage you are at or to point you in the right direction.
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Apparently in Sweden, some guy made a mathematical formula for picking up...
The problem with turning "art" (ie. conversation skills, DJing, etc) into a "science" is that you end up with rules lawyers. "Justin Timberlake is AFC", "talking to a girl while rotating your pinky 2 inches to the left of your thigh is AFC".
You can't put rules to dating. You can have general principles, but most of it depends on your own initiative and intuition.
The problem with turning "art" (ie. conversation skills, DJing, etc) into a "science" is that you end up with rules lawyers. "Justin Timberlake is AFC", "talking to a girl while rotating your pinky 2 inches to the left of your thigh is AFC".
You can't put rules to dating. You can have general principles, but most of it depends on your own initiative and intuition.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.