I have a suggestion that on the sosuave site there should be a questionnaire for visitors to fill out. In this it should ask visitors to answer a series of multiple choice questions. Then at the end they get advice on what articles they should read to improve or what posts they should read from the forum. I feel this will help djs to rate there skills and show them how they can improve there technique.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Spike_the_Dragon
Senior Don Juan
Too cold and methodical, IMO.
diablo
Master Don Juan
I've got a better idea. How about you make this survey/quiz, then link us to the completed result. We'll test it out on a random sample group, and if the results are favorable then it will be evaluated by a board of moderators before being passed along to the site admin. If it passes through all of these steps without being vetoed, then it will become a part of the site.
The SoSuave beaurocracy...
The SoSuave beaurocracy...
I veto it already.Originally posted by diablo
I've got a better idea. How about you make this survey/quiz, then link us to the completed result. We'll test it out on a random sample group, and if the results are favorable then it will be evaluated by a board of moderators before being passed along to the site admin. If it passes through all of these steps without being vetoed, then it will become a part of the site.
The SoSuave beaurocracy...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Is this because you do not want to do the due diligence of reading everything as to get a thorough knowledge of DJism?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
squirrels
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It's an art, not a science.
Can you judge a painter's skill at painting with a multiple choice test? Or a musician's instrumental/vocal talent?
Saying its an art and not a science dosnt mean you cant get advice and a broad spectrum of dj questions, also i know all the dj stuff on this site is good but its nothing to do with not wanting to read it all, its to pinpoint parts you should brush up on.
squirrels
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Yes, as a matter of fact, saying it's an art and not a science means EXACTLY that. Every situation is different. There is no "right answer." It's all in your attitude and expression.
There is no "right answer." You're still thinking about dating and seduction like they're logical sciences.
Just because you know what tool to use to hit a nail doesn't make you a master carpenter.
Squirrels if you cant learn to improve your game why does this site exist? You can learn to be a better artist, just like you can learn to be a better dj. The thing im talking about will not allow you to be amazing in every situation its just a method which people can use to learn or improve just like a thing to tel you what stage you are at or to point you in the right direction.
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Apparently in Sweden, some guy made a mathematical formula for picking up...
The problem with turning "art" (ie. conversation skills, DJing, etc) into a "science" is that you end up with rules lawyers. "Justin Timberlake is AFC", "talking to a girl while rotating your pinky 2 inches to the left of your thigh is AFC".
You can't put rules to dating. You can have general principles, but most of it depends on your own initiative and intuition.
The problem with turning "art" (ie. conversation skills, DJing, etc) into a "science" is that you end up with rules lawyers. "Justin Timberlake is AFC", "talking to a girl while rotating your pinky 2 inches to the left of your thigh is AFC".
You can't put rules to dating. You can have general principles, but most of it depends on your own initiative and intuition.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.