"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ways to Disarming a hot women besides NEG

DJnoob

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ok, so you want hot chick to be your friend ONLY for social proof. How would you disarm her? Do you just tell her right away, "lets hang out sunday?..oh don't worry im taken already" (even if you don't have a GF)

Anymore ways? And if you have done this or field tested it, share your experience.

Thakns
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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flexion_

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You aren't trying to date her - so there is no need to disarm her.

Just be her friend as you wanted. Only the dudes having sex or relationships with her need to worry about that because they are trying to establish attraction.
 

DJnoob

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so, technically speaking this means

1. Use friendly kino?
2. No flirting at all
3. teasing? yes?
4. anymore?>
 

Le Parisien

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DJnoob said:
so, technically speaking this means

1. Use friendly kino?
2. No flirting at all
3. teasing? yes?
4. anymore?>
I mean seriously man, if you really just want to be friends with hot women, what's so difficult?

How do you become friends with your male buddies? By being friendly, being interesting, being generous, being the right type of person to connect with them. You are friendly, but you are not a pushover, and you don't try too hard to become their friend.

You don't ask yourself:
Should I be funny?
Should I buy them drinks when we go out?
Should I call them or should they call me?
etc...
You just know, you can feel it.

Basically it's just a natural process.

So why do you ask yourself so many questions about having hot female friends? Sorry man, but looks like you are not being honest with yourself and with us. You still have an agenda, you are still interested in getting with them. Therefore, you are NOT trying to be their friend. Social proof or not...:down: :nono:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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flexion_ said:
You aren't trying to date her - so there is no need to disarm her.

Just be her friend as you wanted. Only the dudes having sex or relationships with her need to worry about that because they are trying to establish attraction.
I agree. :up:
 

johnmich

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to be her friend, jus do what you would normally do without trying to pull her
 

The Truth

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Disarm? You're talking as if women are some kind of threat or are hostile. That's the wrong frame of mind.

Just treat all women of all levels of hotness like good pals youve known for ages. You wouldn't need to "disarm" your mate would you?
 
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