"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ways to Disarming a hot women besides NEG

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DJnoob

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ok, so you want hot chick to be your friend ONLY for social proof. How would you disarm her? Do you just tell her right away, "lets hang out sunday?..oh don't worry im taken already" (even if you don't have a GF)

Anymore ways? And if you have done this or field tested it, share your experience.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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flexion_

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You aren't trying to date her - so there is no need to disarm her.

Just be her friend as you wanted. Only the dudes having sex or relationships with her need to worry about that because they are trying to establish attraction.
 
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DJnoob

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so, technically speaking this means

1. Use friendly kino?
2. No flirting at all
3. teasing? yes?
4. anymore?>
 
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DJnoob said:
so, technically speaking this means

1. Use friendly kino?
2. No flirting at all
3. teasing? yes?
4. anymore?>
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I mean seriously man, if you really just want to be friends with hot women, what's so difficult?

How do you become friends with your male buddies? By being friendly, being interesting, being generous, being the right type of person to connect with them. You are friendly, but you are not a pushover, and you don't try too hard to become their friend.

You don't ask yourself:
Should I be funny?
Should I buy them drinks when we go out?
Should I call them or should they call me?
etc...
You just know, you can feel it.

Basically it's just a natural process.

So why do you ask yourself so many questions about having hot female friends? Sorry man, but looks like you are not being honest with yourself and with us. You still have an agenda, you are still interested in getting with them. Therefore, you are NOT trying to be their friend. Social proof or not...:down: :nono:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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flexion_ said:
You aren't trying to date her - so there is no need to disarm her.

Just be her friend as you wanted. Only the dudes having sex or relationships with her need to worry about that because they are trying to establish attraction.
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I agree. :up:
 
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to be her friend, jus do what you would normally do without trying to pull her
 
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Disarm? You're talking as if women are some kind of threat or are hostile. That's the wrong frame of mind.

Just treat all women of all levels of hotness like good pals youve known for ages. You wouldn't need to "disarm" your mate would you?
 
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