"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Waving to a woman

K2000kidd

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i know this sounds stupid but a woman i work with made a big deal to her friends about me waving and always saying hi to her. I do this with about 80 percent of the people i work with
does waving and just being friendly/social towards a woman give her a sense of power?

i mean if i didn't interact with people work would just be work ya know
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Jeremymichael

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saying hello to work colleagues is normal. Do you make a point of finding her and is the waving a bit over the top?
 

WC2

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Sure, I wave to all the time. I can't imagine how else I would thoughtfully say hi to woman during the day and let her know I "mean it".

As a matter of fact, when I wave I come to a full stop, lift my right hand then carefully lift my middle finger. Smiling is always a bonus.

Yes, waving is gay. No, it's not the end of the world.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DrD77

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if i ever wave its more of me lifting my arm in the air without moving it and just exposing my hand to the person im waving at.
 

K2000kidd

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yeahh i mean mine isn't a flailing "hey i'm so happy to see you" type of wave
its a pretty much peace sign with thumb extending out
nothing could be called flitatious about it
LOL i used to use gun fingers back in the day though
 

r0cky

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Waving is normal for you, because you're a social person.
The girl is retarded and probably anti-social.
In other words, she's the one at fault here, you're only being your social self.
 
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