"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Watch this! It will change your world.

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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marconi discovered radio waves and built the first radio transmitter
 

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squirrels: I can't find a single fault with anything you wrote in your last post. I do however suspect that your powers of reasoning and logic are a damn sight better than those of the people on the program.
And I don't know about Baltimore, but round here TV is lousy, and watching it is the last thing I want to do. And a lot of this kind of stuff is presented in a dramatic, uncritical way purely and simply to boost ratings. My ears prick up as soon as I hear the word "frequency" bandied about by people who really have no idea what it means and think it can be used to explain away just about anything.

I think we've strayed a bit from the original post, and I do feel way guilty that the original poster may have taken offence. My issue was entirely with the program, not with you posting it.
Can I bow out gracefully now? Its my first flame war. Good isn't it!
 

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I guess you guys missed the other thread on "The Secret," which is a million pages long.

It is unsubstantiated marketing BS.

Quantum theory aside, it simply makes no sense.

The whole website is designed to sell you stuff.

Think critically. There is nothing that supports "The Secret" other than some fallacious reasoning.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I think most of you are missing the point, the video isn't trying to give you a miracle solution to things you want, it's just trying to show you a different way of looking at things.

for example, if you want more money and you think your never going to get more money, you will always be negative, but if you think you will get more money and really start to believe it, you will be in a better state of mind and body to ACT on it!

I went to college a few years ago to study computing and maths, I didn't actually get the grades to study maths but I thought positive about what I wanted and started to use visualization techniques, and you know what? when the new term started I was sitting at a desk, looking at equations on a white board! lol I'm not saying it fell in my lap, I had to do some persuasion to the teacher, but he gave me chance! and the whole point of this is if I believed I couldn't do it, I wouldn't have tried persuading the teacher!

so it's not marketing BS, just positive thinking!!
 

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Labourer said:
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so it's not marketing BS, just positive thinking!!
This is CLASSIC marketing. And, sadly, they're counting on your desire to believe it to stop you from thinking critically about it.
 

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No offence to the original poster, and thanks for sharing, but this is like a majority of self-help books I've read. They promise incredible things, then leave you without any real facts or instructions, except "think positive".

I don't buy into stuff like this and it usually follows a pattern, so when I hear several minutes of hype, I've started switching off.


People watch them and blindly accept everything that is spoonfed to them without even an ounce of critical thinking. Makes me depressed.
I agree with your attitude. If we hope to improve our intelligence and wisdom we must question everything and never accept anything blindly.
 

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whistler said:
This is CLASSIC marketing. And, sadly, they're counting on your desire to believe it to stop you from thinking critically about it.
it hasn't stopped me thinking critically about it at all, but I like to keep an open mind, you say classic marketing, exactly what is it marketing? as far as I can see, it's trying to make you look at things differently than you do now, not stop ability to judge ideas negatively and positively.

so many people, feel 'down in the dumps' everyday for most of their life, why deny someone with confidence and self esteem problems to benefit from this information? If alot of people changed their outlook on life, maybe we wouldn't have wars, crime and greedy politicians!
 

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Jariel said:
No offence to the original poster, and thanks for sharing, but this is like a majority of self-help books I've read. They promise incredible things, then leave you without any real facts or instructions, except "think positive".
They don't promise you anything...only what you promise yourself.

And "think positive" is enough. That and "act positive".

If, instead, you are looking for a step-by-step guide as to how to live your life, or some magic truth that will suddenly make all of this...the women, the money, the happiness...all flow into your life easily and without effort, you're going to be looking for a LONG time.

Even if there was such a thing, you would find no satisfaction in it.

There are no magic dancing shoes. Only your belief.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yeah there were alot of pseudo-science stuff I didn't buy but I think the "message" of this film is true. Positive thinking won't harm you, that's for sure x)
 

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squirrels said:
And "think positive" is enough. That and "act positive".
This is where I disagree. I can think and act positive sitting in my chair playing computer games, but this isn't going to help me get rich, successful or confident, as suggested by these "get rich", "get successful" or "get confident" courses.

I'm not looking for any magical solution or step by step guide, but direction is necessary to achieve anything, even just a walk to the shop. If you don't know which way you're meant to be going, then all the positive thinking, hard work and dedication in the world is not going to get you there.
 

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Jariel said:
I can think and act positive sitting in my chair playing computer games,
I strongly doubt that. "Positive" does not mean "absence of effort" or "most comfortable". If your goal is to get rich or get laid, then sitting around playing computer games is the furthest thing from positive.
 

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I thought it was a great video. Even if you don't believe in it, what's wrong with a little positive thinking? If you don't become rich, at least you'll still be happy.
 

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I was disappointed by the lack of empowerment that they toted. They seemed to place the responsibility of getting what we want simply on our visualization thereof, rather than the action that must follow. To say that the universe will bring me a cup of coffee is ridiculous, but to say that I want a cup of coffee, will visualize myself getting a cup, and then will get myself a cup is much more empowering (and realistic) than putting the achievement of my goals in the hands of some unseen, unknown force around me.

Right message, wrong details, and it's a lot like What the Bleep do we Know, which had much more blatant use of pseudoscience when it came to the power of the mind to influence its environment and the abuse of schroedinger's cat experiement (Heisenberg's uncertainty principle).
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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OMG MY FAVORITE MOVIE EVER!

I bought it like 3 monthes ago

This movie is life changing - I use the law of attraction everyday -
 

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squirrels said:
This is an interesting read, too...it's from a site that talks about end-world scenarios and it talks a little bit about string theory...the idea that particles aren't particles at all, but are actually just vibrations of multidimensional strings that manifest themselves in our universe:
read this...http://www.rotten.com/library/bio/mad-science/jakob-bohme/
 

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New Age Piece of Information

New Age Psychological mumbo jumbo....visualization, goal-management, focus, think positive, 'Everyone is master of their own destiny' etc.... all wrapped in snake oil package(everyone is so happy like on Witnesses of Jehova magazine cover).

All great religions know about these thinks too....prayers (wishes), meditations, 'Mind over matter', 'faith of yours will cure you' etc. For higher level of "religious" knowledge check Gnostics, Freemasons etc. (intellectual elite of religion).

This "documentary" is very materialistic...you cant be enlightened in any good way wishing a new bike on Christmas ;)

The real secret....There is a bunch (70%) of dumb, materialistic people who will buy(follow) anything if it is attacking their basic instincts in a cunning way....like this documentary (check how the sale is going for those broadcasters on amazon.com)

Eye opener...There are three kinds of people D1ks, puzzies and azzholes....Gary, Team America
 

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Amusing postscript!

Just thought I was duty bound to share this with everyone.
Since the weekend, I've naturally been thinking about the issues in this thread quite a lot. (Mostly along the lines of "In a forum from discussing issues with women, how the hell did I end up arguing about quantum mechanics?") Well, my partner has just started a new business initiative. She's worked hard at it, and we're stood discussing the matter in the kitchen over a coffee. Anyway, she was a bit downhearted because nothing has come of it. So I'm comforting her and I'm thinking to myself; "Huh. And all these guys think is all you have to do is think positive and the thoughts will beam out and everything will be rosy. See I'm thinking positive now. Nothing. See?"

Well I swear to God just as I thought that the bloody phone went and rang with her first client!

All right, before we get carried away I've not changed my position! I still think the existing laws of probability can explain that quite sufficiently. But I do like a good joke, and I'm not going to be above posting a one against myself.

(A bit like the atheist saying "If there's a God may he strike me down now. See? Nothing. Aaarg!!!....)
 

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Every moment of your life is the result of a million influences, converging in an extraordinarily improbable way. Either every second is a miracle or nothing ever is.

The biggest flaw in the video is the claim that experiencing something in your mind at a visceral level will cause that experience to manifest in reality. They do indeed claim that over and over.

Thanks to a bias to notice and remember events that confirm what we expect or want to find (and a generally inability to understand base rates and statistical reasoning), we tend to think events in our life support our ideas. In reality, the evidence is equivocal.

For example, if you want to claim you visuallized a parking space and then, bam, it opened up, you need to take a couple of things into account first. (1) What were the odds of that space opening up on its own to begin with (especially if you're sitting there for a while)? (2) How many times did your visualization not work?

Typically, people would rather use some wishful thinking and see what they want to see, rather than embrace the objective truth. The truth usually isn't very fun. It disconfirms magic at every turn.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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