6-heads lewis
Master Don Juan
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
This is CLASSIC marketing. And, sadly, they're counting on your desire to believe it to stop you from thinking critically about it.Labourer said:...
so it's not marketing BS, just positive thinking!!
I agree with your attitude. If we hope to improve our intelligence and wisdom we must question everything and never accept anything blindly.People watch them and blindly accept everything that is spoonfed to them without even an ounce of critical thinking. Makes me depressed.
it hasn't stopped me thinking critically about it at all, but I like to keep an open mind, you say classic marketing, exactly what is it marketing? as far as I can see, it's trying to make you look at things differently than you do now, not stop ability to judge ideas negatively and positively.whistler said:This is CLASSIC marketing. And, sadly, they're counting on your desire to believe it to stop you from thinking critically about it.
They don't promise you anything...only what you promise yourself.Jariel said:No offence to the original poster, and thanks for sharing, but this is like a majority of self-help books I've read. They promise incredible things, then leave you without any real facts or instructions, except "think positive".
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This is where I disagree. I can think and act positive sitting in my chair playing computer games, but this isn't going to help me get rich, successful or confident, as suggested by these "get rich", "get successful" or "get confident" courses.squirrels said:And "think positive" is enough. That and "act positive".
I strongly doubt that. "Positive" does not mean "absence of effort" or "most comfortable". If your goal is to get rich or get laid, then sitting around playing computer games is the furthest thing from positive.Jariel said:I can think and act positive sitting in my chair playing computer games,
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
read this...http://www.rotten.com/library/bio/mad-science/jakob-bohme/squirrels said:This is an interesting read, too...it's from a site that talks about end-world scenarios and it talks a little bit about string theory...the idea that particles aren't particles at all, but are actually just vibrations of multidimensional strings that manifest themselves in our universe:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.