I said some mean things to her over the phone, and haven't talked to her in over a month and a half. I want to give her a call or drop her an email, send her a message on facebook and see how she responds now that time has passed. We dated for a couple of months. How should I approach, she was pissed off at me, I acted AFCish.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Was told I don't want to talk to you again
- Thread starter Jumpman23
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
WC2
Master Don Juan
Then don't talk to her. You obviously made a mistake. I'm assuming you apologized, if not it's too late. If she can't take your apology then it's time to move on. You can't go around chasing after women if they don't want to be chased.
I've made some real bad mistakes with women (hooked up with their friend, etc) and made the mistake of waiting for awhile to apologize. Women just see this as you wanting to get back in their pants by apologizing. It won't work. Even if it does, things are bound to go wrong again.
I've made some real bad mistakes with women (hooked up with their friend, etc) and made the mistake of waiting for awhile to apologize. Women just see this as you wanting to get back in their pants by apologizing. It won't work. Even if it does, things are bound to go wrong again.
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Find another girl.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
only thing now I want to do is sleep w/ her and then move on. This is a bad thought process, I have these negative feelings that I want her to experience, but if she is not going to be w/ me I want her to suffer, it was her bday the other day, and I hoped she had a bad bday. I know this is wrong but that is how I felt.
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Master Don Juan
Sorry bro, but you don't want to just sleep with her. I've been where you are and it seems you still have feelings for this girl. If you didn't, you could care less what she felt.Jumpman23 said:only thing now I want to do is sleep w/ her and then move on. This is a bad thought process, I have these negative feelings that I want her to experience, but if she is not going to be w/ me I want her to suffer, it was her bday the other day, and I hoped she had a bad bday. I know this is wrong but that is how I felt.
Hoping for negative things to happen to your ex is not healthy, and chances are it will just end up making her feel better. Cut off contact and do your own thing. I'm sure when she sees you months down the road with another woman, she will have plenty of negative feelings.