I said some mean things to her over the phone, and haven't talked to her in over a month and a half. I want to give her a call or drop her an email, send her a message on facebook and see how she responds now that time has passed. We dated for a couple of months. How should I approach, she was pissed off at me, I acted AFCish.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Was told I don't want to talk to you again
- Thread starter Jumpman23
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
WC2
Master Don Juan
Then don't talk to her. You obviously made a mistake. I'm assuming you apologized, if not it's too late. If she can't take your apology then it's time to move on. You can't go around chasing after women if they don't want to be chased.
I've made some real bad mistakes with women (hooked up with their friend, etc) and made the mistake of waiting for awhile to apologize. Women just see this as you wanting to get back in their pants by apologizing. It won't work. Even if it does, things are bound to go wrong again.
I've made some real bad mistakes with women (hooked up with their friend, etc) and made the mistake of waiting for awhile to apologize. Women just see this as you wanting to get back in their pants by apologizing. It won't work. Even if it does, things are bound to go wrong again.
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Find another girl.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
only thing now I want to do is sleep w/ her and then move on. This is a bad thought process, I have these negative feelings that I want her to experience, but if she is not going to be w/ me I want her to suffer, it was her bday the other day, and I hoped she had a bad bday. I know this is wrong but that is how I felt.
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Master Don Juan
Sorry bro, but you don't want to just sleep with her. I've been where you are and it seems you still have feelings for this girl. If you didn't, you could care less what she felt.Jumpman23 said:only thing now I want to do is sleep w/ her and then move on. This is a bad thought process, I have these negative feelings that I want her to experience, but if she is not going to be w/ me I want her to suffer, it was her bday the other day, and I hoped she had a bad bday. I know this is wrong but that is how I felt.
Hoping for negative things to happen to your ex is not healthy, and chances are it will just end up making her feel better. Cut off contact and do your own thing. I'm sure when she sees you months down the road with another woman, she will have plenty of negative feelings.