"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I said some mean things to her over the phone, and haven't talked to her in over a month and a half. I want to give her a call or drop her an email, send her a message on facebook and see how she responds now that time has passed. We dated for a couple of months. How should I approach, she was pissed off at me, I acted AFCish.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Then don't talk to her. You obviously made a mistake. I'm assuming you apologized, if not it's too late. If she can't take your apology then it's time to move on. You can't go around chasing after women if they don't want to be chased.

I've made some real bad mistakes with women (hooked up with their friend, etc) and made the mistake of waiting for awhile to apologize. Women just see this as you wanting to get back in their pants by apologizing. It won't work. Even if it does, things are bound to go wrong again.
 
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yea, always follow whatever advice DJ11 gives you. The second coming of Giovanni Casanova himself.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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only thing now I want to do is sleep w/ her and then move on. This is a bad thought process, I have these negative feelings that I want her to experience, but if she is not going to be w/ me I want her to suffer, it was her bday the other day, and I hoped she had a bad bday. I know this is wrong but that is how I felt.
 
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Jumpman23 said:
only thing now I want to do is sleep w/ her and then move on. This is a bad thought process, I have these negative feelings that I want her to experience, but if she is not going to be w/ me I want her to suffer, it was her bday the other day, and I hoped she had a bad bday. I know this is wrong but that is how I felt.
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Sorry bro, but you don't want to just sleep with her. I've been where you are and it seems you still have feelings for this girl. If you didn't, you could care less what she felt.

Hoping for negative things to happen to your ex is not healthy, and chances are it will just end up making her feel better. Cut off contact and do your own thing. I'm sure when she sees you months down the road with another woman, she will have plenty of negative feelings.
 
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