I said some mean things to her over the phone, and haven't talked to her in over a month and a half. I want to give her a call or drop her an email, send her a message on facebook and see how she responds now that time has passed. We dated for a couple of months. How should I approach, she was pissed off at me, I acted AFCish.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Was told I don't want to talk to you again
- Thread starter Jumpman23
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
WC2
Master Don Juan
Then don't talk to her. You obviously made a mistake. I'm assuming you apologized, if not it's too late. If she can't take your apology then it's time to move on. You can't go around chasing after women if they don't want to be chased.
I've made some real bad mistakes with women (hooked up with their friend, etc) and made the mistake of waiting for awhile to apologize. Women just see this as you wanting to get back in their pants by apologizing. It won't work. Even if it does, things are bound to go wrong again.
I've made some real bad mistakes with women (hooked up with their friend, etc) and made the mistake of waiting for awhile to apologize. Women just see this as you wanting to get back in their pants by apologizing. It won't work. Even if it does, things are bound to go wrong again.
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Find another girl.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
only thing now I want to do is sleep w/ her and then move on. This is a bad thought process, I have these negative feelings that I want her to experience, but if she is not going to be w/ me I want her to suffer, it was her bday the other day, and I hoped she had a bad bday. I know this is wrong but that is how I felt.
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Master Don Juan
Sorry bro, but you don't want to just sleep with her. I've been where you are and it seems you still have feelings for this girl. If you didn't, you could care less what she felt.Jumpman23 said:only thing now I want to do is sleep w/ her and then move on. This is a bad thought process, I have these negative feelings that I want her to experience, but if she is not going to be w/ me I want her to suffer, it was her bday the other day, and I hoped she had a bad bday. I know this is wrong but that is how I felt.
Hoping for negative things to happen to your ex is not healthy, and chances are it will just end up making her feel better. Cut off contact and do your own thing. I'm sure when she sees you months down the road with another woman, she will have plenty of negative feelings.