"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Was this the best way to handle this?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Short story: Thought girl and I were fixing relationship problems, but she left, and now says she's confused about another guy, planned on date with another guy, still confused, but claims to still love me, says she doesn't want me to go, blah blah blah. Said she wasn't attracted to him in a sexual way, just an i-like-him kind of way, blah blah blah. Girl really HAS been raped in the past by someone she was close to, and now has fears about people close to her hurting her, so it's a very tricky situation.
My response: Did not chase her. Simply let her know I love her, but she is making a mistake, and she's on her own in this one. I went on a date with another girl myself, and she found out about it. Emailed me pissed and said she was reconsidering things the whole weekend, and if I really loved her I would have had patience with her, and she would have been back, but now she's "completely gone". I responded simply, I do love you, but as I said, you've got to figure out your mistakes on your own, and I'm not going to sit here and watch you do it. But despite what you think, I didn't leave you behind. When you realized you ****ed up, call me.
That was two days ago. I'm going on another date, and I think she knows about it. This new girl is cute, about an 8, and I don't feel the least bit guilty dating someone because I know the other girl is doing the same thing.
I'm very rusty at this - I was under the idea that we had an excellent relationship for a year, kinda got out of the whole scene a while. I'd just like some feedback as to whether or not I handled this well, or if there is something I could have done differently. I'm still back in the learning stages.
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