"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I met this girl who is 5 years older than me and we were hitting it off pretty good. She asked me for my age and when I told her she said oh wow that makes me like a cougar! At different points of the night I teased her about being a cougar. I got her number and we've been texting each other ever since. Yesterday I saw an ad for the show The Cougars and I texted her saying So I saw an ad for that one show the Cougars, guess who it reminded me :) she texted me back saying haha hmmmmm. I then changed the subject and asked her how her day was, etc. I thought it was clever because it shows I was thinking of her, but now I'm thinking if it was lame or not? Thoughts?

I kind of realize this is a pointless question because we're still talking and it doesn't seem like it has affected our relationship, just basically wondering if sending these kinds of texts are okay?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It's fine. Just don't make it an everyday thing unless she is reciprocating with something similar. Women like to laugh but they don't want someone who's a clown. A clown meaning a guy who thinks it is his job to make a woman laugh.
 
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Thanks for the response! Yeah I won't do that too often, it really did remind me of her though and I thought it would have been cute.
 
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You shouldnt be telling her you are thnking of her. Thats killing attraction.

Why are you texting her rubbish, keep it to a minimum and get her on a date asap. Unless you're trying to make friends?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ease said:
You shouldnt be telling her you are thnking of her. Thats killing attraction.

Why are you texting her rubbish, keep it to a minimum and get her on a date asap. Unless you're trying to make friends?
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??? I was told women love it when they know you're thinking about them. Obviously I'm not going to do it all the time, it's just something cute I wanted to text her.
 
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Its nice to tell them you saw something and it reminded you of her. Once in a while. Shows you have feelings and that's the way to seduce a high quality women. Wh0res are a different story.
 
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Tiguere said:
Its nice to tell them you saw something and it reminded you of her. Once in a while. Shows you have feelings and that's the way to seduce a high quality women. Wh0res are a different story.
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Okay cool I wasn't planning on making this a daily ritual.
 
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