Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Was this lame?

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I met this girl who is 5 years older than me and we were hitting it off pretty good. She asked me for my age and when I told her she said oh wow that makes me like a cougar! At different points of the night I teased her about being a cougar. I got her number and we've been texting each other ever since. Yesterday I saw an ad for the show The Cougars and I texted her saying So I saw an ad for that one show the Cougars, guess who it reminded me :) she texted me back saying haha hmmmmm. I then changed the subject and asked her how her day was, etc. I thought it was clever because it shows I was thinking of her, but now I'm thinking if it was lame or not? Thoughts?

I kind of realize this is a pointless question because we're still talking and it doesn't seem like it has affected our relationship, just basically wondering if sending these kinds of texts are okay?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It's fine. Just don't make it an everyday thing unless she is reciprocating with something similar. Women like to laugh but they don't want someone who's a clown. A clown meaning a guy who thinks it is his job to make a woman laugh.
 

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Thanks for the response! Yeah I won't do that too often, it really did remind me of her though and I thought it would have been cute.
 

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You shouldnt be telling her you are thnking of her. Thats killing attraction.

Why are you texting her rubbish, keep it to a minimum and get her on a date asap. Unless you're trying to make friends?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ease said:
You shouldnt be telling her you are thnking of her. Thats killing attraction.

Why are you texting her rubbish, keep it to a minimum and get her on a date asap. Unless you're trying to make friends?
??? I was told women love it when they know you're thinking about them. Obviously I'm not going to do it all the time, it's just something cute I wanted to text her.
 

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Its nice to tell them you saw something and it reminded you of her. Once in a while. Shows you have feelings and that's the way to seduce a high quality women. Wh0res are a different story.
 

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Tiguere said:
Its nice to tell them you saw something and it reminded you of her. Once in a while. Shows you have feelings and that's the way to seduce a high quality women. Wh0res are a different story.
Okay cool I wasn't planning on making this a daily ritual.
 
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