Was this a BPD experience ? CRAZY story

[Fitters]

Don't understand why you even bother to respond just to put the guy down. The art of sosouve is to make people feel better about themselves ; this is no different from kicking a person who is already down.

Anyways OP , BPD or not - you need a looong soul searching. Drop that girl and focus on yourself for a while. Just delete everything about her and try to do the little things that made you happy. You don't necessarily have to go back to the guy you used to be because that's both impossible and backwards thinking. Learn from this and be a better person.

 

[SmooveMooves]

So glad sosuave members aren't encouraging this big "Oh no! BPD" e-circle jerk.

Most of you guys who whine & cry about the notorious BPD have personality issues yourselves.

 

[marmel75]

So glad sosuave members aren't encouraging this big "Oh no! BPD" e-circle jerk.

Most of you guys who whine & cry about the notorious BPD have personality issues yourselves.

Let's be honest...everyone has some kind of issue when you get right down to it. Some just have more than others, haha..

 

[Infern0]

Yes, it sounds very very similar to my BPD ex, almost the same story.

Massive flirting in the beginning, throwing out all the signals, getting blatently jealous if i talked to other girls, constant texting.

Then the almost "shocked" reaction when i asked her out as though i was craay.

Then being lead on, messed about, playing the victim, "i'm a bad person" etc

I got a confession of a BPD diagnosis out of her about a year later.

i'd be 99% sure that yours is the same.

 

[Infern0]

Your girl is holding a job and going to school. I'm yet to see a bpd girl who has accomplished anything like that. The only ones who appear successful from the outside are actually mooching off a man (or men) and burning through his money. Most of them are tattooed druggie fvckup baby factories.

There are a lot more types of mental illness than BPD. It is not a generic term for "crazy b!tch." It is a very specific mental disorder, with a specific set of traits.

And if you can't see how much you reek of AFC-ness, there is no helping you yet.

Obviously the dude is AFC and he's got massive codependency problems

however, your bpd may be on the low functioning end of the scale, mine does manage to hold down simple jobs, albeit she does change up fairly regularly after they begin to manage her out, and I detect many similar behaviours to my bpd (confirmed diagnosis) in his story so in my opinion, yes he's got issues but she does too.

 

[Yewki]

Actually I had like 4 options when I first started talking to this girl
Read about BPD and than maybe you would understand something

You stayed in a sexless relationship with an emotionally retarded girl who did not reciprocate your feelings for over a year, and stated that you loved her for everything she was despite her flaws.

That's... basically the definition of AFC.

You're in denial, sorry.

 

[Dgwizdal]

BPD or not you are a huge AFC.

No i didn't read this novel as I don't have the time or patience. The sheer size of it shows where your inner game is at and the few glimpes I caught were cringe worthy.

Forget this broad and whether or not she was a BPD. You didn't stand a chance regardless. Use this site to Get your mind right for yourself moving forward. Time to stop giving a fvck and get your nuts back.

 

[NSX-R]

No offence but is this a developed case of an afc?

 

[HariPoter13]

You stayed in a sexless relationship with an emotionally retarded girl who did not reciprocate your feelings for over a year, and stated that you loved her for everything she was despite her flaws.

That's... basically the definition of AFC.

You're in denial, sorry.

AFC = emotionally damaged, insecure individual? With possible BPD tendencies?

We need to refine the term AFC. So should AFC's come to this forum to get bashed, or should they get professional help? I believe less and less in this bull**** that is teached here as more time goes on.

 

[Yewki]

AFC = emotionally damaged, insecure individual? With possible BPD tendencies?

There could be many reasons why a guy is AFC with women. Emotionally damaged? Very well could be. BPD tendencies? Not necessarily. Insecure? Very likely.

]We need to refine the term AFC. So should AFC's come to this forum to get bashed, or should they get professional help? I believe less and less in this bull**** that is teached here as more time goes on.

Most men are AFC and would benefit greatly by overcoming their condition, in the same way an overweight person would benefit greatly by adopting a healthier lifestyle. An AFC who comes to this forum in denial is treated in a similar fashion as a fat slob who goes to a weight loss forum and acts like there's nothing to learn.