Was She Just Broken or Did She Have BPD? (Breakup Story)

LARaiders85

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You couldn't resist assigning a mental illness syndrome to every problem men has with women don't you.

Perhaps it's you with some dysfunctional syndrome that I'm too lazy to look up but for the moment let's call it victim mentality.

Other men are giving proactive advice whilst you are in the reactive frame - the victim.
You're not very well educated are you?
 
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**Summary**:

\- She proceeded to break up with me over this.

All of this was a mind****
OP who cares whether she technically meets the diagnostic criteria for BPD, just read up on the disorders if her behaviour is similar to what you read about that means she’s toxic to you and you need to get out.

She broke up with you, right now the main point is to go strict NC, exercise, and start dating other women ASAP.

If you’ve been in this type of toxic/abusive relationship before it means you haven’t learned your lesson. A lot of men who get embroiled with toxic women usually have to get their hands burned on the stove a couple times before they really learn. Don’t be one of those guys.

These women are usually pretty and great in the sack and act normal in the beginning. Usually the crazy doesn’t come out until months or even years have passed and you’re stuck by a trauma bond due to the hot/cold and push/pull behaviours these women use on you to keep you hooked like a strong addiction.

Read up on toxic/abusive behaviours displayed by women so next time they do this to you you’ll recognize it right away and be able eject immediately.
 

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Histrionic personality. shallow emotions that burn hot in the moment, push/pull, only wants you when you're distant, thinks/acts like relationships are more serious than they actually are, highly suggestible, ABSOLUTELY LOVE THE AMBIGUITY OF NON-EXCLUSIVITY BECAUSE THEY CAN GET ATTENTION FROM MANY MEN
Your cool and all, your one of the more likable ones on the site, but to be fair, every issue a girl has is not related to a mental illness, you do realize that just because someone has some symptoms does not qualify them to have the disorder right?

Every crazy girl or issue someone has is not automatically related to a mental illness.

None of us are are qualified to diagnose some random stranger with a mental illness that we never even personally meet, do you see how ridiculous that is?
 

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Degree in mechatronics from NUS, look it up in world rankings. Bet it's better then your lame Google inspired research on mental illness anytime any day - 5400 doesn't make one an expert, it just makes one an obsessive freak show.
Don't believe that for one second lol, you speak like someone who crawled out of a Hong Kong sewer
 

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Your cool and all, your one of the more likable ones on the site, but to be fair, every issue a girl has is not related to a mental illness, you do realize that just because someone has some symptoms does not qualify them to have the disorder right?

Every crazy girl or issue someone has is not automatically related to a mental illness.

None of us are are qualified to diagnose some random stranger with a mental illness that we never even personally meet, do you see how ridiculous that is?
Funny how OP said "yeah that's it" lol. You know better. It's really not that difficult, get experience with your eyes open and you'll have predictive ability.
 

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Funny how OP said "yeah that's it" lol. You know better. It's really not that difficult, get experience with your eyes open and you'll have predictive ability.
Yeah, because you went to school for
Psychopathology huh? Sure thing kid.....
 

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The funny thing about BPD is that the real professionals actually suck at diagnosing it. My former wife grew up with a bpd sister, always trying to counsel her, and that led her to eventually get a master's in psychology and counseling. In the course of that degree, there was no mention of bpd. Therapists actually hate bpd clients as being their worst. It is virtually impossible to get them to admit they have a problem. Rarely do they seek therapy at all. Plus, they are always antagonistic and disagreeable toward mental health professionals.

I aree that OP's girl is not bpd. Her having a job is the first disqualifier. Going to therapy is another. Plus there is no mention of substance abuse.

Having experience with a bpd is like having had a rare illness. If you go to a doctor, they won't know anything, because it is so rare. But talk to someone who has had that same experience, and you can learn a lot more than what the doctor tells you.
 

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Therapists actually hate bpd clients as being their worst. It is virtually impossible to get them to admit they have a problem. Rarely do they seek therapy at all. Plus, they are always antagonistic and disagreeable toward mental health professionals.
I agree with this as it echoes what I have read and been told by a couple therapists. However, some therapists feel that BPD is a spectrum, like many other disorders. You can be high functioning or low functioning, depending on severity. I don't know how official that is but it makes sense to me.
 
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