Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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was John Lennon an AFC?

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The other day, a friend of mine accused John of being AFC because of the whole Yoko thing...how she supposedly "broke up the Beatles" (bs, IMO) and how John took a 5-year break from music to become a "househusband." But it's not as if the man stayed home to raise his son Sean while Yoko went out and brought in the income. John had already been a multimegamillionaire and a world idol for 10 years by that time. He had the time and resources, and really wanted to be there for his son....and that's what every real man should do, isn't it? As it is, John missed out on being there for Julian 10 years prior because of his hectic schedule with the Beatles...so he now wanted to make things right with his 2nd son. And yeah, he really loved his wife and seemed to not hold back at all with expressing that. Is that so wrong? I don't really see any AFCism in any of that.

Though I know nobody's perfect, I couldn't bring myself to agree with what my friend said about one of my all-time heroes.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If I was rich I wouldn't work either.
Well maybe I'd be a racecar driver, lol.
 

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Doesn't matter. He was famous, rich and talented. Bingo.
 

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Using the term AFC for everything, including where it does not apply and when it is not understood, is the most AFC thing people do too much around here.
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
Using the term AFC for everything, including where it does not apply and when it is not understood, is the most AFC thing people do too much around here.
Haha, glad someone said this... makes me lol :kick:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No.

Sometimes frustrated, very often a chump, but definitely not average.
 

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Bonhomme said:
No.

Sometimes frustrated, very often a chump, but definitely not average.
That is correct.

However Pre-Yoko Ono, he fvcked many women who throw themselves at his feet. I believe many men fall into the abyss because the concept of love is construed by society's social conventions and its so haywired into our brain that we don't question to understand it but rather let it happen. Love has become a religion.
 

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On a side note, is it just me who think Lennon is massively overrated?
I'm sure there are others ... but I certainly ain't among them.
 

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I think he was a great musician and a good guy for loving a girl that obviously isn't attractive.

Then again, alot of feminine liberal hippy guys like Lennon or ever more recently Bill Clinton, don't tend to choose the most attractive women as mates!

Let's face it, in general super hotties like jocks not hippies. There can be a few exceptions.
 

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Ricky said:
I think he was a great musician and a good guy for loving a girl that obviously isn't attractive.

Then again, alot of feminine liberal hippy guys like Lennon or ever more recently Bill Clinton, don't tend to choose the most attractive women as mates!

Let's face it, in general super hotties like jocks not hippies. There can be a few exceptions.
Super hotties like hot, successful guys like Rush Limbaugh.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm tired of all these "so and so was AFC" threads.


Dude, worry about YOUR life. Keep from being an AFC. You can't do anything about anybody else. Besides, we don't know what he was like in his personal life.

As far as I know: AFC = Average Frustrated Chump. Your every day guy who gets walked all over. He's convinced women should be put on a pedestal and treated as princesses. They're never wrong in his eyes. Everything is his fault, and he feels that he should act to correct these things. He's convinced that being sweet, nice and caring are the ways to win women over, and then wonders why he gets stuck in the friend zone, while his crush since 3rd grade is getting pounded by guys who just don't give a sh*t.

John Lennon. TOTALLY AFC... :rolleyes:
 
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