"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wants my kids then natta

guitaronfire411

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Hey there!

Long time no post. Been off-again and on-again with my girlfriend for the last 6 years. She is bipolar. She has claimed in the past to never want to see me again and then sought me out, etc.

IN the last two weeks, she made me promise we would have kids before she gets to be 35. We also agreed upon getting an apartment together. Now she says that she likes me and cares for me, just not enough to want to marry me. So we broke up last Sunday because I said I wanted her to be happy with life. SHe claims that the last week being glorious but i know she says one thing and often feels differently or admits different feelings later.

I really care a lot for this girl and would love to be with her with kids and married. She finds it hard to believe that I would delay marriage and living together for years so we can date. I told her that I would move to be with her.

The toughest part is that she changes her mind so frequently. A different friend said that she should act her age (almost 31) instead of acting 14 all the time. How can I convince her that I am the guy she needs?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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backbreaker

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what the **** is wrong with you. the **** dude, leave. jesus christ. stop self flagellating yourself
 
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