i agreeWarboss Alex said:As I suspected, you have no muscle to define. I would cut back some tennis, gain some muscle and then reassess.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
i agreeWarboss Alex said:As I suspected, you have no muscle to define. I would cut back some tennis, gain some muscle and then reassess.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I would kill to look like that and be able to run of 20ks
In that picture, unless he's 9 feet tall and has massive calves and a huge back, then he is not over 200lbs.In any case hes sitting there with his brownlow (best in the league) medal so he doesn't care. And are you saying 160 pounds? I know for a fact he is over 200.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Hell you have a lot more confidence in me than I do. Although yeah I do wish I was himIt sounds to me like you want to be HIM. You can easily achieve a better looking body than that within a year, but you seem to be disqualifying yourself and putting it out of your reach already.
for anyone wanting to gain weight, fibre intake should be high, even higher than normal. why drop the salads?Espi said:Dump the salads.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
that's where I get my salad cals from.Espi said:And, no, Hidden Valley Ranch dressing doesn't count.
Espi said:He needs no veggies right now.
that is why we disagree..Espi said:Eat as many carbs as you like, and make sure you're getting 10-15% of your caloric intake from fats.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
There are a whole bunch of reasons to eat veggies... And a multivitamin just doesn't cut it.Sources of Phytochemicals - Fruits, vegetables, whole grains, legumes and nuts are rich sources of phytochemicals (plant chemicals) that may help reduce our risk for certain types of cancer, heart disease and several other illnesses. The following chart summarizes some of the current research findings:
How the chemicals help as shown in some studies:
Citrus,
including
grapefruit,
lemon, orange, tangerine,
lime Vitamin C
Folic acid
Lutein Zeaxanthin
Help the body get rid of carcinogens, inhibit heart disease, improve fertility, and inhibit mild depression. Lutein and zeaxanthin may help lower the risk of macular degeneration and other eye diseases.
Solanaceae,
including
peppers,
potato,
tomato,
eggplant
Capsaicin
Antioxidants
Vitamin C
Protect lungs from cigarette smoke, reduce blood pressure, and promote weight control. Lycopenes (red natural colorants) found in tomatoes and peppers may help prevent prostate cancer.
Cruciferae,
including
radish,
broccoli,
cabbage,
Brussel
sprouts,
kale, arugula,
cauliflower
Sulforophane
Vitamins C,
A and K Antioxidants
Deactivate old estrogen and testosterone, protect DNA from harmful oxidants and stimulate the body to detoxify carcinogens. Sulforophanes in broccoli and kale may reduce risk of breast cancer.
Rosaceae,
including
berries,
almond,
apricot, apple,
pear, plum
Ellagic acid
Antioxidants
Pectin
Vitamins E and C
Block tumor growth, prevent blood clots, help prevent fungal infection, reduce blood cholesterol and improve mental function associated with aging.
Leguminosea,
including
peanuts, peas,
soybeans (tofu, soymilk),
beans,
lentils
Phytoestrogens
Folate
Genistein
B vitamins
Vitamin E
Magnesium
Reduce cholesterol and hot flashes and improve glucose control in diabetes.
Allium, including
garlic, onion,
leek, asparagus,
chive, scallion
Saponins Sulfer compounds
Selenium
Antioxidants
Stimulate the immune system, inhibit cancer growth, and decrease blood cholesterol.
Cucurbitaceae,
Including
watermelon,
cantaloupe,
pumpkin,
squash Zeaxanthin
Beta-carotene
Soluble fiber
Inhibit heart disease, cancer, diabetes and obesity.
Exactly: 1 is not surprising given 2 (+ your recommendation of a lower protein intake).Espi said:1 I have a hard time digesting 20 cals. per lb
2 That is why I avoid veggies during the bulking phase.
lolEspi said:Why do I need "anti-oxidants, nutrients, minerals"?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.