i agreeWarboss Alex said:As I suspected, you have no muscle to define. I would cut back some tennis, gain some muscle and then reassess.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
i agreeWarboss Alex said:As I suspected, you have no muscle to define. I would cut back some tennis, gain some muscle and then reassess.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I would kill to look like that and be able to run of 20ks
In that picture, unless he's 9 feet tall and has massive calves and a huge back, then he is not over 200lbs.In any case hes sitting there with his brownlow (best in the league) medal so he doesn't care. And are you saying 160 pounds? I know for a fact he is over 200.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hell you have a lot more confidence in me than I do. Although yeah I do wish I was himIt sounds to me like you want to be HIM. You can easily achieve a better looking body than that within a year, but you seem to be disqualifying yourself and putting it out of your reach already.
for anyone wanting to gain weight, fibre intake should be high, even higher than normal. why drop the salads?Espi said:Dump the salads.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
that's where I get my salad cals from.Espi said:And, no, Hidden Valley Ranch dressing doesn't count.
Espi said:He needs no veggies right now.
that is why we disagree..Espi said:Eat as many carbs as you like, and make sure you're getting 10-15% of your caloric intake from fats.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
There are a whole bunch of reasons to eat veggies... And a multivitamin just doesn't cut it.Sources of Phytochemicals - Fruits, vegetables, whole grains, legumes and nuts are rich sources of phytochemicals (plant chemicals) that may help reduce our risk for certain types of cancer, heart disease and several other illnesses. The following chart summarizes some of the current research findings:
How the chemicals help as shown in some studies:
Citrus,
including
grapefruit,
lemon, orange, tangerine,
lime Vitamin C
Folic acid
Lutein Zeaxanthin
Help the body get rid of carcinogens, inhibit heart disease, improve fertility, and inhibit mild depression. Lutein and zeaxanthin may help lower the risk of macular degeneration and other eye diseases.
Solanaceae,
including
peppers,
potato,
tomato,
eggplant
Capsaicin
Antioxidants
Vitamin C
Protect lungs from cigarette smoke, reduce blood pressure, and promote weight control. Lycopenes (red natural colorants) found in tomatoes and peppers may help prevent prostate cancer.
Cruciferae,
including
radish,
broccoli,
cabbage,
Brussel
sprouts,
kale, arugula,
cauliflower
Sulforophane
Vitamins C,
A and K Antioxidants
Deactivate old estrogen and testosterone, protect DNA from harmful oxidants and stimulate the body to detoxify carcinogens. Sulforophanes in broccoli and kale may reduce risk of breast cancer.
Rosaceae,
including
berries,
almond,
apricot, apple,
pear, plum
Ellagic acid
Antioxidants
Pectin
Vitamins E and C
Block tumor growth, prevent blood clots, help prevent fungal infection, reduce blood cholesterol and improve mental function associated with aging.
Leguminosea,
including
peanuts, peas,
soybeans (tofu, soymilk),
beans,
lentils
Phytoestrogens
Folate
Genistein
B vitamins
Vitamin E
Magnesium
Reduce cholesterol and hot flashes and improve glucose control in diabetes.
Allium, including
garlic, onion,
leek, asparagus,
chive, scallion
Saponins Sulfer compounds
Selenium
Antioxidants
Stimulate the immune system, inhibit cancer growth, and decrease blood cholesterol.
Cucurbitaceae,
Including
watermelon,
cantaloupe,
pumpkin,
squash Zeaxanthin
Beta-carotene
Soluble fiber
Inhibit heart disease, cancer, diabetes and obesity.
Exactly: 1 is not surprising given 2 (+ your recommendation of a lower protein intake).Espi said:1 I have a hard time digesting 20 cals. per lb
2 That is why I avoid veggies during the bulking phase.
lolEspi said:Why do I need "anti-oxidants, nutrients, minerals"?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.